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https://loveyourcreativity.com From the initial spark of a creative idea to getting your projects finished & out there! Sun, 30 Mar 2014 17:40:32 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.6.5 http://0.gravatar.com/avatar/e82cdf867f3dcf128ce9504af3a51b96.png?s=48 https://loveyourcreativity.com Copyright © LoveYourCreativity.com 2013 marysia13@googlemail.com (Marysia Trembecka Actress/Blogger/Writer & Performer of her own shows) marysia13@googlemail.com (Marysia Trembecka Actress/Blogger/Writer & Performer of her own shows) Creativity 1440 http://i1354.photobucket.com/albums/q698/M013/LYCPodcastpic_zps3e343740.png https://loveyourcreativity.com 144 144 Podcasts by Marysia Trembecka of LoveYourCreativity.com to make you smile & motivate you to create & put your art out there whether you are an artist or an actor. Interviews & advice with creatives from directors to authors + Marysia[...] Love Your Creativity.com. Interviews with creatives with their advice on keeping motivated & moving forward, whether you are a actor, painter or a musician. Plus Marysia's fun weekly newsletter & 13 minute task of the day to keep you creating. Blog is at www.loveyourcreativity.com. Twitter @MarysiaT http://www.facebook.com/Loveyourcreativity. G+ & LinkedIn Marysia Trembecka creativity, marketing, author, musician, actor, novelist, positive, thinking, interviews, tips, advice Marysia Trembecka Actress/Blogger/Writer & Performer of her own shows Marysia Trembecka Actress/Blogger/Writer & Performer of her own shows marysia13@googlemail.com no no https://loveyourcreativity.com/2014/03/31/three-mindset-traps-that-entrepreneurs-creatives-fall-into-how-to-fix-them/ https://loveyourcreativity.com/2014/03/31/three-mindset-traps-that-entrepreneurs-creatives-fall-into-how-to-fix-them/#comments Mon, 31 Mar 2014 14:00:16 +0000 http://loveyourcreativity.com/?p=2829 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2014/03/31/three-mindset-traps-that-entrepreneurs-creatives-fall-into-how-to-fix-them/feed/ 3 0:29:28 The way you think about yourself affects everything from the jobs you book to how you do your marketing and the work itself. One of the benefits Ryan Lock is noticing about doing so much coaching is he is seeing this so clearly with his clients.  Th[...] The way you think about yourself affects everything from the jobs you book to how you do your marketing and the work itself. One of the benefits Ryan Lock is noticing about doing so much coaching is he is seeing this so clearly with his clients.  These mindset traps stop you having what you want as you get in your own way. This is Marysia Trembecka’s with Ryan James Lock twelfth coaching session podcast, just press the arrow above or  below are some of the highlights (this is not a full transcript) Three mindset traps Mindset Trap 1        The fear of what other people think of you if you put yourself out there or take action. Mindset Trap 2       Who The Hell Am I Syndrome? Mindset trap 3          Delusion – Thinking about it and expecting it to happen. Mindset Trap One  – The fear of what other people think of you if you put yourself out there or take action. Often the first real block of getting more clients is people worry about what others will think if they indeed step up and do a Youtube video, a blog or work towards goals. You will come up against people in whatever field you are in. As Marysia is an actress she has got used to being rejected as you don’t always fit the brief or have the right coloring for the family unit. Rejection is not always personal. You can get pencilled (so you have to block out the time in your diary) before you are penned and then still be rejected. Ryan suggests thinking of yourself as a brand, it makes it less personal. If you are worried what people think, really do acknowledge  that it is not personal, there is often a bigger picture we can’t see. You can worry about what people think, or you can take action on your goals, you can’t do both Allowing what other people think of you to stop you taking action is a real trap. Often as an entrepreneur or creative your family and friends often don’t get your dreams. Marysia listens to lots of other peoples’ podcasts in the gym for inspiration, for encouragement, she finds it’s like being in a mastermind group and helps block the other negative voices out. (There are some great podcast suggestions at the end of this post.) Ryan has recently coached someone into getting published on a front page of a website who was worried about her ‘real writer’ friends and what they would think to see her as that is not her real focus. Ryan has suggested that if her friends got weird she needs to change her friends. Having a coach or a mastermind group is important to support your dreams and remind you that you are not alone. Marysia was in a ‘mastermind’ group with other actors but they were all very different casting. She still passes on jobs for others  although if it was a casting for her type I would not. However having people in very different or similar but different  fields can be super useful to brainstorm, inspire Collaborate not competet post here Mindset Trap 2       Who The Hell Am I Syndrome? Every one suffers from lack of confidence, it can be very subtle. I won’t go that for that as I probably won’t get it I won’t go to that audition as it is out of my reach I won’t keep in touch with that contact  because they are out of my league. So it manifests itself as not believing you deserve what you want. It is very erosive, even if you want something if you have this tape playing in your head of ‘who the hell am I?’  or a la the Spice Girls ‘Who (oooh ooh) Do You Think You Are?‘ you just won’t take action for what you want. The Kardashians, reality TV stars earming $25 million for eating lunch, as they so into self promotion. Ryan had a client critiscising Madonna’s hard self promotion and Ryan said actually that is an amazing thing. So how to overcome this? Look at areas in your life where you suffering Are you not going for that promotion, talk, seminar, audition? Look at what you are not doing and own the fact that the only reason you are staying stuck is because of that belief. From there things will[...] Actors, Casting, Directors, Filmmakers, Inspiration, Marketing, Motivation, Musicians, Podcast, Writers Marysia Trembecka Actress/Blogger/Writer & Performer of her own shows no no https://loveyourcreativity.com/2014/03/28/make-the-art-you-want-to-make/ https://loveyourcreativity.com/2014/03/28/make-the-art-you-want-to-make/#respond Fri, 28 Mar 2014 10:30:15 +0000 http://loveyourcreativity.com/?p=2813 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2014/03/28/make-the-art-you-want-to-make/feed/ 0 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/12/18/the-space-between-where-you-want-to-go-where-you-are-now-bridge-it-through-action/ https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/12/18/the-space-between-where-you-want-to-go-where-you-are-now-bridge-it-through-action/#respond Wed, 18 Dec 2013 18:19:37 +0000 http://loveyourcreativity.com/?p=2380 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/12/18/the-space-between-where-you-want-to-go-where-you-are-now-bridge-it-through-action/feed/ 0 0:34:53 Marysia with Ryan James Lock Coaching Audio Session 0010 ‘See the space between where you want to go and where you are now.  The distance between there and here is through action. Your action that you chose to take. .’  In this 10th coaching session[...] Marysia with Ryan James Lock Coaching Audio Session 0010 ‘See the space between where you want to go and where you are now.  The distance between there and here is through action. Your action that you chose to take. .’  In this 10th coaching session podcast Ryan continues to coach me on how to market myself and my work, achieving my big goals, looking at my mindset and tackle my limiting beliefs and overcome procrastination. Ryan coached me over coffee in London a few weeks ago and by the end of the second coffee I had decided to do my first online workshop and webinar and write an ebook!  My first webinar was ‘5 ways to blast through creative blocks and get your project done” You can listen to the replay and this week’s free workshop here This podcast covered Moving forward and making big drastic steps, really stepping up. Most people know what they need to step up to the next level but there are often mental blocks to the doing. You know what to do but you are not doing it. ‘The strategies you have used to get you to where you are now, are not the same strategies that you need to take you to the next level.’ I did my normal last minute.com chaos to do my book and webinar recently.  ‘Little and often’ does not really work unless I have had to implement it eg voice and singing practice every day. My ebook and webinar I kept putting off actually doing until the deadline got too near to ignore. Four days from the deadline I had to work out the technology of a webinar or a ebook shop plus assemble the ebook and write the webinar. In my setting a date then I again HAVE to produce so I was up til 3 am most mornings and go to that uber focused place. Ryan says you must congratulate yourself in getting on and stepping up to the next stage of your life. Ryan’s procrastination list exercise Write out a list of everything you are putting off doing that you know you should be. Where are you playing too small? What steps could you take for your business or creativity? Then write against each one a step you can take. In writing my ebook  I then knew I wanted a dip in/dip out book rather than a progression from start to finish. It was only on starting to compile this I realised that was what this book needed. ‘The worse thing you can do is nothing’ I am struggling though with doing my showreel, editing it and getting it out there. As actors or creatives we are always waiting for clips or production stills to then send out. We have to collate pieces of showreel for work and yet I have been refusing to watch myself. How else can people know I can act on screen if they can’t see my work? I need showreel to move forward to do film and TV work. I really focused on getting the webinar and ebook out the door last week and not on the actual marketing of myself. Do you have a portfolio of work that you are happy to show people? I also have not been marketing my Londontown, track you hear at the beginning and end of the podcasts. The universe is reflecting back my hesitation. The universe seems to have stopped just as I have stopped myself from moving forward by refusing to do the work I need to do next; producing and putting my showreel and also getting my Londontown single out there. I am refusing to watch myself on screen, then put in an edit and let the world see it, what happens if the world thinks I am a bad actress? If the work is not out there the world can’t think I am bad or it is terrible. If I don’t do that then noone can see me and judge it. Ryan says ‘If you don’t move forward nothing can.’ Ryan says that I have raised the bar for myself, the space between where you are and where you could be, that space manifests itself as anxiety, worry, hesitation. Ryan encourages me to look at the fact I have done well. Look at where I am now and how I have moved forward. I am more self aware and developed a progressive mentality. I mention my F*** Guilt blog post Have developed my blogging and podcasts and I lo[...] Actors, Auditions, Fun, Gratitude, Marketing, Networking, Podcast Marysia Trembecka Actress/Blogger/Writer & Performer of her own shows no no https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/12/16/f-guilt-why-it-is-bad-for-us/ https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/12/16/f-guilt-why-it-is-bad-for-us/#respond Mon, 16 Dec 2013 14:00:25 +0000 http://loveyourcreativity.com/?p=2286 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/12/16/f-guilt-why-it-is-bad-for-us/feed/ 0 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/12/11/60-ways-to-get-your-art-in-gear-the-ebook/ https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/12/11/60-ways-to-get-your-art-in-gear-the-ebook/#respond Wed, 11 Dec 2013 13:21:27 +0000 http://loveyourcreativity.com/?p=2212 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/12/11/60-ways-to-get-your-art-in-gear-the-ebook/feed/ 0 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/12/09/if-i-have-a-god-it-is-bacchus-he-branded-me/ https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/12/09/if-i-have-a-god-it-is-bacchus-he-branded-me/#comments Mon, 09 Dec 2013 20:17:26 +0000 http://loveyourcreativity.com/?p=2189 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/12/09/if-i-have-a-god-it-is-bacchus-he-branded-me/feed/ 1 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/10/18/how-to-get-the-right-mindset-on-press-reviews/ https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/10/18/how-to-get-the-right-mindset-on-press-reviews/#comments Fri, 18 Oct 2013 11:20:04 +0000 http://loveyourcreativity.com/?p=1878 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/10/18/how-to-get-the-right-mindset-on-press-reviews/feed/ 2 0:39:20 In this Seventh coaching session podcast Ryan James Lock continues to coach me on how to market myself and my work, achieving my big goals, looking at my mindset and tackle my limiting beliefs and overcome procrastination. This week was all about pr[...] In this Seventh coaching session podcast Ryan James Lock continues to coach me on how to market myself and my work, achieving my big goals, looking at my mindset and tackle my limiting beliefs and overcome procrastination. This week was all about press reviews and how to approach reading  and recovering from them. Ryan has a PR background, having had his own business and then moving into celebrity and brand consultancy on how to get a strategy to get into the media and also Ryan himself features regularly across the world. I wanted to ask him about press and reading reviews. I am in a play at the moment  and we are getting the press reviews coming through. I have a firm no reading of reviews policy as I do not find it helps me do my job as an actor. Part of the reason I don’t read reviews is my experience in Edinburgh Festivals where you have students reviewing who have no idea of the process nor the craft. I now want constructive criticism only from my director and the writer. Bad reviews don’t help you get on stage and do a great show, yes one is always learning and there are technical issues but the press can even get this wrong, I remembered an example of a Times reviewer saying a certain pop singer was pitchy and me overhearing my very famous and brilliant singing teacher call her management and say ‘she was perfectly in tune’, I’d trust my old singing teacher more than a reviewer on this I currently have an interesting time with the reviews as I understand we need them for promotion, and I know we are getting as actors great reviews even if they don’t love the play, which people are loving or hating. All artists remember the negative reviews and dismiss the positive ones. Ryan’s response is that a review is just one person’s opinion. What is very dangerous to people who are their own brand,, when you step up on stage and you sing or act, not only are you but you are also the brand, hence you are vulnerable. He knows many people don’t read reviews and it is sensible to ignore them especially if the reviewer is a student who has no real understanding. He has done a YouTube video on dealing with bad press, if you have indeed read the reviews: 1)Be objective in what can I learn from this 2)Look at the person writing it, do they embody of what you want. He quotes  from the film ‘You Can Heal Your Life’ ‘Don’t listen to people who don’t have what you want’, if you want riches don’t listen to those who are always poor 3)To really understand that it is just an opinion. Ryan asks when I say I don’t read them is that because I worry something will hurt or that it just makes me less focused? I mention Steven Berkoff, the director/writer recently on Facebook saying how he doesn’t read reviews as he has so much bad criticism over the years but he had to post an intelligent review as they are so rare. I am very aware how a good review can really help, indeed we have had great reviews  and theatres already talking about the show transferring so I am not bitter and twisted on this. However I know great reviews can help the brand, me, sales of tickets etc. So there is an argument to get someone else to read them to see if we use them to promote. Ryan said find either a publicist, a friend, someone who is objective. We all have a sense of insecurity and it is a bad cycle to get into to be allowed to be swayed by negative comments. Wise people aren’t swayed, it is psychological well-being, you should not feel validated if people say you are great and invalidated if they don’t like you. I gave an example of hearing a tune ‘October Arrival’ by Steve Waterman, an amazing jazz trumpeter and asked if I could write some lyrics to it. I then, 6 weeks later, was asked to perform it in front of the 30 piece orchestra with my own lyrics. I was so terrified I couldn’t breathe. We started with me coming in an octave lower than I had meant to. All the way through I was shaking, I came to the middle ten (not 8, it is a jazz tune[...] Actors, Marketing, Podcast Marysia Trembecka Actress/Blogger/Writer & Performer of her own shows no no