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https://loveyourcreativity.com From the initial spark of a creative idea to getting your projects finished & out there! Sun, 30 Mar 2014 17:40:32 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.6.5 http://0.gravatar.com/avatar/e82cdf867f3dcf128ce9504af3a51b96.png?s=48 https://loveyourcreativity.com Copyright © LoveYourCreativity.com 2013 marysia13@googlemail.com (Marysia Trembecka Actress/Blogger/Writer & Performer of her own shows) marysia13@googlemail.com (Marysia Trembecka Actress/Blogger/Writer & Performer of her own shows) Creativity 1440 http://i1354.photobucket.com/albums/q698/M013/LYCPodcastpic_zps3e343740.png https://loveyourcreativity.com 144 144 Podcasts by Marysia Trembecka of LoveYourCreativity.com to make you smile & motivate you to create & put your art out there whether you are an artist or an actor. Interviews & advice with creatives from directors to authors + Marysia[...] Love Your Creativity.com. Interviews with creatives with their advice on keeping motivated & moving forward, whether you are a actor, painter or a musician. Plus Marysia's fun weekly newsletter & 13 minute task of the day to keep you creating. Blog is at www.loveyourcreativity.com. Twitter @MarysiaT http://www.facebook.com/Loveyourcreativity. G+ & LinkedIn Marysia Trembecka creativity, marketing, author, musician, actor, novelist, positive, thinking, interviews, tips, advice Marysia Trembecka Actress/Blogger/Writer & Performer of her own shows Marysia Trembecka Actress/Blogger/Writer & Performer of her own shows marysia13@googlemail.com no no https://loveyourcreativity.com/2014/03/31/three-mindset-traps-that-entrepreneurs-creatives-fall-into-how-to-fix-them/ https://loveyourcreativity.com/2014/03/31/three-mindset-traps-that-entrepreneurs-creatives-fall-into-how-to-fix-them/#comments Mon, 31 Mar 2014 14:00:16 +0000 http://loveyourcreativity.com/?p=2829 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2014/03/31/three-mindset-traps-that-entrepreneurs-creatives-fall-into-how-to-fix-them/feed/ 3 0:29:28 The way you think about yourself affects everything from the jobs you book to how you do your marketing and the work itself. One of the benefits Ryan Lock is noticing about doing so much coaching is he is seeing this so clearly with his clients.  Th[...] The way you think about yourself affects everything from the jobs you book to how you do your marketing and the work itself. One of the benefits Ryan Lock is noticing about doing so much coaching is he is seeing this so clearly with his clients.  These mindset traps stop you having what you want as you get in your own way. This is Marysia Trembecka’s with Ryan James Lock twelfth coaching session podcast, just press the arrow above or  below are some of the highlights (this is not a full transcript) Three mindset traps Mindset Trap 1        The fear of what other people think of you if you put yourself out there or take action. Mindset Trap 2       Who The Hell Am I Syndrome? Mindset trap 3          Delusion – Thinking about it and expecting it to happen. Mindset Trap One  – The fear of what other people think of you if you put yourself out there or take action. Often the first real block of getting more clients is people worry about what others will think if they indeed step up and do a Youtube video, a blog or work towards goals. You will come up against people in whatever field you are in. As Marysia is an actress she has got used to being rejected as you don’t always fit the brief or have the right coloring for the family unit. Rejection is not always personal. You can get pencilled (so you have to block out the time in your diary) before you are penned and then still be rejected. Ryan suggests thinking of yourself as a brand, it makes it less personal. If you are worried what people think, really do acknowledge  that it is not personal, there is often a bigger picture we can’t see. You can worry about what people think, or you can take action on your goals, you can’t do both Allowing what other people think of you to stop you taking action is a real trap. Often as an entrepreneur or creative your family and friends often don’t get your dreams. Marysia listens to lots of other peoples’ podcasts in the gym for inspiration, for encouragement, she finds it’s like being in a mastermind group and helps block the other negative voices out. (There are some great podcast suggestions at the end of this post.) Ryan has recently coached someone into getting published on a front page of a website who was worried about her ‘real writer’ friends and what they would think to see her as that is not her real focus. Ryan has suggested that if her friends got weird she needs to change her friends. Having a coach or a mastermind group is important to support your dreams and remind you that you are not alone. Marysia was in a ‘mastermind’ group with other actors but they were all very different casting. She still passes on jobs for others  although if it was a casting for her type I would not. However having people in very different or similar but different  fields can be super useful to brainstorm, inspire Collaborate not competet post here Mindset Trap 2       Who The Hell Am I Syndrome? Every one suffers from lack of confidence, it can be very subtle. I won’t go that for that as I probably won’t get it I won’t go to that audition as it is out of my reach I won’t keep in touch with that contact  because they are out of my league. So it manifests itself as not believing you deserve what you want. It is very erosive, even if you want something if you have this tape playing in your head of ‘who the hell am I?’  or a la the Spice Girls ‘Who (oooh ooh) Do You Think You Are?‘ you just won’t take action for what you want. The Kardashians, reality TV stars earming $25 million for eating lunch, as they so into self promotion. Ryan had a client critiscising Madonna’s hard self promotion and Ryan said actually that is an amazing thing. So how to overcome this? Look at areas in your life where you suffering Are you not going for that promotion, talk, seminar, audition? Look at what you are not doing and own the fact that the only reason you are staying stuck is because of that belief. From there things will[...] Actors, Casting, Directors, Filmmakers, Inspiration, Marketing, Motivation, Musicians, Podcast, Writers Marysia Trembecka Actress/Blogger/Writer & Performer of her own shows no no https://loveyourcreativity.com/2014/03/04/dont-just-give-things-up-for-lent-do-more-of-what-works/ https://loveyourcreativity.com/2014/03/04/dont-just-give-things-up-for-lent-do-more-of-what-works/#comments Tue, 04 Mar 2014 23:37:15 +0000 http://loveyourcreativity.com/?p=2726 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2014/03/04/dont-just-give-things-up-for-lent-do-more-of-what-works/feed/ 1 0:34:53 This is a Marysia Trembecka with Ryan James Lock coaching session. Ryan and I chatted about being 2 months out from our New Years Goals and seeing where in some areas there has been progress and in others a dark failure. I know I am not alone, but  [...] This is a Marysia Trembecka with Ryan James Lock coaching session. Ryan and I chatted about being 2 months out from our New Years Goals and seeing where in some areas there has been progress and in others a dark failure. I know I am not alone, but  being in my gym I can see how much quieter it is now that the January Gym Resolution has faded away for lots of people. I always give something up for  Lent, as my father is a Polish Catholic, my mum an English Protestant and I am a Buddhist. Since I was a teenager all three of us  have always given up something for Lent, my sister just thinks we are mad.  Traditionally early Christians gave up things for purification and enlightenment in the 40 days before receiving baptism to convert to Christianity. I do actually find peace and indeed purification and enlightenment as I strip away each year some habits for 7 weeks, my life always moves forward and I learn something new. Last year I gave up sugar, alcohol, reading fiction books and men that were bad for me (the last one was the one I failed on, though it did provide some amusements as my ex kept yelling ‘I am not bad for you!” when I refused to see him ;-)) In giving up the alcohol, men and reading I ended up with lots of spare time which I filled with gym, reading non fiction, opening my mind and thus starting my own blog and my podcast. Lent starts Wednesday 5th March 2014 this year. This year I am thinking about cultivating new positive habits rather than just giving up things as I always start again with the old habits when Lent finishes. I want to try and implant as a creative, a proper business day routine, so sitting at my desk at 9am to do work for 4 hours as if I was  paid to do so. I know auditions etc get in the way but the idea of a 4 hour per day focused work when I am not on set seduces me into the idea that I would get letters sent out, be more on top of everything, keep up to date with everything such as chasing expenses etc. Currently by the time I sit down to do work; after a late night, breakfast and possibly the gym it is often lunchtime and then I have to dash out an hour later. Ryan says what you focus on is what improves so cultivate and build habits that take you where you want to go is a much more positive place than the negativity of giving things up to improve your life. For example in the gym don’t think that you hate your body so you have to be in the gym to lose fat but to be there to do more pressups, getting stronger etc. So  Ryan, when he gave up smoking instead of giving up, he tried to make his mission instead to build great health so juicing veg and going for longer walks. I talk of the joy of being free and louche, on set filming last week with wine glass in hand and cigarette in the other, it is fun to be free without boundaries but I do know that the good habits are the way forward. (I don’t actually smoke but my character did and having that cigaretter dangling whilst I was suitably made up as a woman in the 1950s felt very decadent!)  After many years of giving up things for Lent maybe I won’t give up anything but start something instead. Ryan says Don’t deny yourself but cultivate what you need more of to get what you want. If you want to build a great client base, rather than look at what to stop doing, maybe take a new course or look at what has got you great results. Ask what works Do more of what works that gets you the results you want. What can you add to your life and to your toolbox to cultivate what you want (For example I know if I learnt to touchtype properly it would help.) I got an iPad finally after years of wanting one but not seeing why I needed one and I was on set  filming a commercial last week. I had a scene at 10am and then not one til 6pm as there was a change of location, so I could just grab my iPad from my handbag and do lots of work, so now I can grab moments to be more productive. Ryan says that if it is not going the way you want, don‘t bea[...] Inspiration, Motivation, Podcast Marysia Trembecka Actress/Blogger/Writer & Performer of her own shows no no https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/09/15/how-to-deal-with-free-work-learning-to-say-no-taking-care-of-yourself/ https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/09/15/how-to-deal-with-free-work-learning-to-say-no-taking-care-of-yourself/#comments Sun, 15 Sep 2013 18:23:06 +0000 http://loveyourcreativity.com/?p=1705 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/09/15/how-to-deal-with-free-work-learning-to-say-no-taking-care-of-yourself/feed/ 2 0:38:15 Ryan Lock/Marysia Podcast coaching session 5: In this Fifth coaching session podcast Ryan continues to coach me on how to market myself and my work, achieving my big goal, looking at my mindset and tackle my limiting beliefs and overcome procrastina[...] Ryan Lock/Marysia Podcast coaching session 5: In this Fifth coaching session podcast Ryan continues to coach me on how to market myself and my work, achieving my big goal, looking at my mindset and tackle my limiting beliefs and overcome procrastination. This week I start the session feeling exhausted and with no energy to move things forward. Here are some of the highlights of his advice for moving forward this week (this is not a full transcript) We discuss doing Free Work, as an actor, singer or even as a graphic designer how much free work can you do? How do you balance being free, open and generous with having a life and a business to run, with using up all your energy that free work takes up? Ryan – “when it comes to work of any kind, there needs to be a fair exchange and often that takes the form of money. What is important is the message you are sending out to clients, you have to be honest regarding your time and energy.” DJ’s, actors, models – look at the reasons for doing free work, if someone is saying it will pay off then there has to be a tangible way of looking at that reward. For example if you are doing free plays to meet people and get agents to see you then you have to ask how many free plays have you done, how many agents have seen you? This can be a wake up call – if free work just gets you more free work, yes there is an element of getting your stripes but you need to really value your time and energy so you must check in with yourself. If someone is offering you a chance to do something then you must be able to guarantee that you get something from it eg a recording etc. Often the only people will benefit will be those taking your time. I discuss how it is probably more the energy than the time, when one is firing on all cylinders creatively then you are giving your all and then you need time to come down and relax. You cannot squander the energy as you have only so much energy. If you are involved in someone else’s stuff then you lose your own regularity and discipline on pushing forward your own creative efforts: you don’t make the calls you should, you don’t think where you need to take action as you are all consumed in someone else’s project. All my leads I am chasing with Londontown, I have missed London Fashion Week, I am behind the curve as my time, energy and focus has been somewhere else. Ryan says when he hears clients discuss free work, it alarms him how many people expect talented professionals to work for free. The gifts and energy that talented people have, one must be very selective about who one even engages with. As it can lead to a burn-out or no energy for other things then it is time to pull out. Always ask ‘Does this move me towards or away from my goal?” ‘What is the tangible benefits?’ You probably already have enough experience. I quote Jan Amsden, a very experienced actress and director, (her imdb) ‘You only do free or profit-share theatre if it is a character you have always wanted to play or an experience you want to have’ I then talk about my exhaustion, not knowing what to do next with the Londontown – I am tired just thinking about the next step. Ryan says he can hear I am emotionally exhausted and I need to make my well-being a priority. I will work better and be more focused when I am rested. If my To-Do list is making me over-stressed. He suggests make a list of three things I could do to make my health and well being a priority. Spend time really re-charging, not 3 or 4 weeks but a day or so. I know I need to start saying No to people, places and things i ‘should’ do. I need to be very selective on even which auditions I go to or classes, I need to not pre-book my life too far in advance or keep saying yes to helping others. I feel as I was doing a play I had a reason to say No, and now everything is catching up with me. I am not stopping myself from rushing around, Ryan says the first step in changing something is acknowledging[...] Podcast Marysia Trembecka Actress/Blogger/Writer & Performer of her own shows no no https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/08/08/creating-a-next-steps-plan-whilst-talking-marysia-off-the-ledge-ryan-locks-coaching-2/ https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/08/08/creating-a-next-steps-plan-whilst-talking-marysia-off-the-ledge-ryan-locks-coaching-2/#comments Thu, 08 Aug 2013 21:20:20 +0000 http://loveyourcreativity.com/?p=1472 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/08/08/creating-a-next-steps-plan-whilst-talking-marysia-off-the-ledge-ryan-locks-coaching-2/feed/ 1 0:37:07 Post 45 of Dream, create and make money in the arts. This is the second of a series of Podcast coaching sessions with Ryan Lock ‘Be Your Own Publicist”. Ryan continues to coach me and give me further advice and tips. Ryan clearly makes the point tha[...] Post 45 of Dream, create and make money in the arts. This is the second of a series of Podcast coaching sessions with Ryan Lock ‘Be Your Own Publicist”. Ryan continues to coach me and give me further advice and tips. Ryan clearly makes the point that his coaching is not about validating my busy-ness or emotions but about moving my project forward. Ryan has agreed to coach me in this podcast format as what to do when you have a creative product and don’t know the next steps. I have a dance music song ‘Londontown’ and I am clueless on what to do next, I dont know the dance market and there seems an overwhelming amount to do. Ryan talks about my fears and is coaching me over the next few weeks on my next steps which applies to whatever art you are about to start marketing from painting, to a new play or event. Here are some of the highlights (this is not a full transcript) so listen to the show either by clicking on the right pointing arrow above or you can go to iTunes Love Your Creativity podcast channel I reported that I did actually manage to make a Teaser YouTube video for my track, make my Love your Creativity YouTube channel and upload the teaser video. It isn’t perfect but it now exists. He congratulates me on moving forward, even just a bit. I, of course, felt I had to get something done because of knowing that I had to report Ryan and the world. He says one of the best ways to get stuck is to get caught up in perfectionism, you have to get moving. We say things like ‘It’s not ready yet’ and we use that as an excuse to not move forward. Being scared of being rejected is often the reason we never let our art see the light of day. The moment you get a product out the door, you then know if people love it or not. I have set myself a very clear target ideal audience so Ryan has set me the task of finding 3 people I know who fit my ideal audience brief, then take them to coffee and tell them that they are my ideal listener, how I want to attract more people like them and ask where they go clubbing, where they find music, what websites, any advice they can give, play them the track and get their response. Even if they don’t get back to you, you have reached out and taken action and then your mind does come up with some interesting ideas. Ryan then responded to my idea of people videoing or photographing them listening to my track and using #MarysiaLondontown in return for a prize, but instead he suggested ask people to send me a pic of their own personal ‘Londontown’ and offer them a place in my video when it gets made. I then express my exasperation and frustration in not knowing what to do next, nor how to do it. Ryan responded with the next steps plan to combat me going crazy with so many ways to do this plus I don’t have a marketing plan or enough knowledge about the market. I am watching The Vamps release their first single just via Youtube at present (188,000 views in 2 days at time of writing!) but I am not sure how their model works for me as I don’t have the platform they do. He advises me also this week to think of a friend who does know more than I and take them out for coffee and ask them for advice. He suggests I think about doing a listening event. The dangers of being too exclusive. Realise that I did not make this dance single in a day so don’t expect to launch it in a day. Really get focused and calm rather than lose myself in the panic of overwhelm and panic. He says ‘You have done an amazing thing in creating so now lets take some proper time into the marketing. Take the time and energy to come up with a plan. Don’t rush this thing but take your time. He again brings me back to regaining a sense of control, establish a clear set of questions to ask. He says it is still too early to get a solid marketing plan. Start with my target market and ask where they download their music from and where they go. I have 3 target audience to and 7 people to get their advice, and give myself permis[...] Londontown, Marketing, Podcast Marysia Trembecka Actress/Blogger/Writer & Performer of her own shows no no https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/07/31/how-deadlines-make-you-achieve-more-than-you-believe-you-can/ https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/07/31/how-deadlines-make-you-achieve-more-than-you-believe-you-can/#respond Wed, 31 Jul 2013 22:54:50 +0000 http://loveyourcreativity.com/?p=1384 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/07/31/how-deadlines-make-you-achieve-more-than-you-believe-you-can/feed/ 0