Deprecated: Function create_function() is deprecated in /home/marysiat/public_html/loveyourcreativity.com/wp-content/plugins/hl-twitter/hl_twitter.php on line 64
https://loveyourcreativity.com From the initial spark of a creative idea to getting your projects finished & out there! Thu, 12 Jun 2014 23:10:24 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.6.5 http://0.gravatar.com/avatar/e82cdf867f3dcf128ce9504af3a51b96.png?s=48 https://loveyourcreativity.com Copyright © LoveYourCreativity.com 2013 marysia13@googlemail.com (Marysia Trembecka Actress/Blogger/Writer & Performer of her own shows) marysia13@googlemail.com (Marysia Trembecka Actress/Blogger/Writer & Performer of her own shows) Creativity 1440 http://i1354.photobucket.com/albums/q698/M013/LYCPodcastpic_zps3e343740.png https://loveyourcreativity.com 144 144 Podcasts by Marysia Trembecka of LoveYourCreativity.com to make you smile & motivate you to create & put your art out there whether you are an artist or an actor. Interviews & advice with creatives from directors to authors + Marysia[...] Love Your Creativity.com. Interviews with creatives with their advice on keeping motivated & moving forward, whether you are a actor, painter or a musician. Plus Marysia's fun weekly newsletter & 13 minute task of the day to keep you creating. Blog is at www.loveyourcreativity.com. Twitter @MarysiaT http://www.facebook.com/Loveyourcreativity. G+ & LinkedIn Marysia Trembecka creativity, marketing, author, musician, actor, novelist, positive, thinking, interviews, tips, advice Marysia Trembecka Actress/Blogger/Writer & Performer of her own shows Marysia Trembecka Actress/Blogger/Writer & Performer of her own shows marysia13@googlemail.com no no https://loveyourcreativity.com/2014/06/13/fear-100-days-of-being-an-actress/ https://loveyourcreativity.com/2014/06/13/fear-100-days-of-being-an-actress/#respond Fri, 13 Jun 2014 13:13:00 +0000 http://loveyourcreativity.com/?p=3146 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2014/06/13/fear-100-days-of-being-an-actress/feed/ 0 0:20:59 It is called a leap of faith for a reason: it’s not a small step or a sideways shuffle, not a little hop skip and then stop to look where you are going. It is a full bound leap over the side with arms flung to the air, not knowing whether you will e[...] It is called a leap of faith for a reason: it’s not a small step or a sideways shuffle, not a little hop skip and then stop to look where you are going. It is a full bound leap over the side with arms flung to the air, not knowing whether you will end up swimming in a river of crocodiles or resting on Harvey Weinstein’s yacht with a glass of Krug. Every creative project always has a moment when you have to leap off and trust that the end result will be better for having leapt, be it a success or  a ‘failure’ than some once half dreamed project that you never really got moving on or properly finished piece of work that never actually sees the light of day. (You can listen to the podcast version by just pressing the arrow or here are the main points below) There is also the fear of your life choices: I am happy with the choices I have made to be a professional creative. Occasionally though the instability, the insecurity of the next job, the fact as a freelance actress and performer my career and income is always uncertain, the fear may creep in. My father may never get over the fact that if I had not left my bond dealer career at 26 (I used to work in the City – the London equivalent of Wall Street) along with my Manolo’s and large pay packet I would be very wealthy now and probably have a serious London apartment paid for.  However I may have to move out of the wonderful place I live in  two months time and the mere thought of London flat hunting with it’s ever rising rents and the fact I don’t want to get a ‘proper job’ with a guaranteed income means there is more uncertainty than ever. In rational moments I know I have made the right choices, that this is where I need to be for my career and my heart space  but late at night fear creeps in! The fear gets worse also as I contemplate my next projects, especially the film I want to make based on my new solo theatre show that I am workshopping next month at the Lost Theatre in London.  It may be terrible: terribly filmed, acted, conceived, written.. I could go on with all the negatives.   However as outlined in Five Regrets of The Dying, a book from a nurse in palliative care, the number one regret of those at the end of their life is I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.   I am ‘lucky’ that  my life tends to support itself, the projects  I have done and the network of people around me always gives me fresh hope and impetus to go on. This happened again today as I have had two screenings of films I am in over the last 24 hours: Pearl which premiered in Forest Hill which was a lovely short I did last year directed and written by Nick Barrett. Trailer below. (It is to have its big screen premiere in a couple months at Crouch End Arts Cinema) Pearl trailer from CORPOREAL Films on Vimeo. Closer To Home (kickstarter details here)  should have premiered at the BFI directed by Bhavithrah Satkunarasa & produced by James Lyndon today along with the other graduation projects of UAL, however the sound was not ready so the film had to be pulled at the last minute. I had already organized to go to the BFI and was meeting a friend who wanted some creative coaching and inspiration advice beforehand so I went to watch the other films despite not getting to watch the film I was in. It was wonderful to see so many young female directors, producers and writers all graduating. After the  BFI screening I got chatting to Thomas Stoppel who was brilliant  in one of the films ‘Things I Do For You’ However not only is he an actor, he also has produced, written and directed short films and feature films.  I asked him how he got into making films given he really is such a great actor and has a great look as well, enough of a combination that many in such a position would rest on their laurels and wait for work to come to them. His website link here ‘I made my own TV Cookery series when  I was 18[...] Actors, Directors, Filmmakers, Inspiration, Motivation, Musicians, Writers Marysia Trembecka Actress/Blogger/Writer & Performer of her own shows no no https://loveyourcreativity.com/2014/03/31/three-mindset-traps-that-entrepreneurs-creatives-fall-into-how-to-fix-them/ https://loveyourcreativity.com/2014/03/31/three-mindset-traps-that-entrepreneurs-creatives-fall-into-how-to-fix-them/#comments Mon, 31 Mar 2014 14:00:16 +0000 http://loveyourcreativity.com/?p=2829 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2014/03/31/three-mindset-traps-that-entrepreneurs-creatives-fall-into-how-to-fix-them/feed/ 3 0:29:28 The way you think about yourself affects everything from the jobs you book to how you do your marketing and the work itself. One of the benefits Ryan Lock is noticing about doing so much coaching is he is seeing this so clearly with his clients.  Th[...] The way you think about yourself affects everything from the jobs you book to how you do your marketing and the work itself. One of the benefits Ryan Lock is noticing about doing so much coaching is he is seeing this so clearly with his clients.  These mindset traps stop you having what you want as you get in your own way. This is Marysia Trembecka’s with Ryan James Lock twelfth coaching session podcast, just press the arrow above or  below are some of the highlights (this is not a full transcript) Three mindset traps Mindset Trap 1        The fear of what other people think of you if you put yourself out there or take action. Mindset Trap 2       Who The Hell Am I Syndrome? Mindset trap 3          Delusion – Thinking about it and expecting it to happen. Mindset Trap One  – The fear of what other people think of you if you put yourself out there or take action. Often the first real block of getting more clients is people worry about what others will think if they indeed step up and do a Youtube video, a blog or work towards goals. You will come up against people in whatever field you are in. As Marysia is an actress she has got used to being rejected as you don’t always fit the brief or have the right coloring for the family unit. Rejection is not always personal. You can get pencilled (so you have to block out the time in your diary) before you are penned and then still be rejected. Ryan suggests thinking of yourself as a brand, it makes it less personal. If you are worried what people think, really do acknowledge  that it is not personal, there is often a bigger picture we can’t see. You can worry about what people think, or you can take action on your goals, you can’t do both Allowing what other people think of you to stop you taking action is a real trap. Often as an entrepreneur or creative your family and friends often don’t get your dreams. Marysia listens to lots of other peoples’ podcasts in the gym for inspiration, for encouragement, she finds it’s like being in a mastermind group and helps block the other negative voices out. (There are some great podcast suggestions at the end of this post.) Ryan has recently coached someone into getting published on a front page of a website who was worried about her ‘real writer’ friends and what they would think to see her as that is not her real focus. Ryan has suggested that if her friends got weird she needs to change her friends. Having a coach or a mastermind group is important to support your dreams and remind you that you are not alone. Marysia was in a ‘mastermind’ group with other actors but they were all very different casting. She still passes on jobs for others  although if it was a casting for her type I would not. However having people in very different or similar but different  fields can be super useful to brainstorm, inspire Collaborate not competet post here Mindset Trap 2       Who The Hell Am I Syndrome? Every one suffers from lack of confidence, it can be very subtle. I won’t go that for that as I probably won’t get it I won’t go to that audition as it is out of my reach I won’t keep in touch with that contact  because they are out of my league. So it manifests itself as not believing you deserve what you want. It is very erosive, even if you want something if you have this tape playing in your head of ‘who the hell am I?’  or a la the Spice Girls ‘Who (oooh ooh) Do You Think You Are?‘ you just won’t take action for what you want. The Kardashians, reality TV stars earming $25 million for eating lunch, as they so into self promotion. Ryan had a client critiscising Madonna’s hard self promotion and Ryan said actually that is an amazing thing. So how to overcome this? Look at areas in your life where you suffering Are you not going for that promotion, talk, seminar, audition? Look at what you are not doing and own the fact that the only reason you are staying stuck is because of that belief. From there things will[...] Actors, Casting, Directors, Filmmakers, Inspiration, Marketing, Motivation, Musicians, Podcast, Writers Marysia Trembecka Actress/Blogger/Writer & Performer of her own shows no no https://loveyourcreativity.com/2014/03/28/make-the-art-you-want-to-make/ https://loveyourcreativity.com/2014/03/28/make-the-art-you-want-to-make/#respond Fri, 28 Mar 2014 10:30:15 +0000 http://loveyourcreativity.com/?p=2813 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2014/03/28/make-the-art-you-want-to-make/feed/ 0 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/11/19/the-words-we-use-completely-depicts-our-mindset-and-influences-how-we-feel-cs009/ https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/11/19/the-words-we-use-completely-depicts-our-mindset-and-influences-how-we-feel-cs009/#respond Tue, 19 Nov 2013 18:15:01 +0000 http://loveyourcreativity.com/?p=2027 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/11/19/the-words-we-use-completely-depicts-our-mindset-and-influences-how-we-feel-cs009/feed/ 0 0:38:09 In this 9th coaching session podcast Ryan continues to coach me on how to market myself and my work, achieving my big goals, looking at my mindset and tackle my limiting beliefs and overcome procrastination. Here are some of the highlights of his ad[...] In this 9th coaching session podcast Ryan continues to coach me on how to market myself and my work, achieving my big goals, looking at my mindset and tackle my limiting beliefs and overcome procrastination. Here are some of the highlights of his advice for moving forward this week (this is not a full transcript) I am talking about after each process or show I crawl into a hole, collapse on the sofa and read, despite knowing that I do all or nothing in my life, I feel I put too much pressure on myself regarding expectations. After I have given a lot of energy to a project there is a lot of sugar, biscuits, cakes and chocolates, not talking to people, hiding and sitting on the couch eating.  I am doing NaNoWriMo this year (write a 50, 000 word novel in the month of November) but have also fell behind the word count during these few days of hiding. Ryan says this is common and it is important to understand that when you exert yourself in one area it is important and natural.  I have this voice in my head saying ‘Come on, get on, moving and change the world’. Ryan feels this could be a reaction, so I need to rebel against the fact that I have done so much and feels I need to give my permission to recover, however the way I am choosing to recover is not working for me. I know that eating loads of Haribo is not good, I need to find better downtime coping ways that are healthy and really work for me. I feel a bit heartbroken. I know I can get into massively catastrophic thought drama and can hurt myself in terms of self care and moving forward in my life. Ryan thinks in putting my all into things try and remember  the following advice from ‘Creative mind and success’ by Ernest Holmes, ‘A seed does not become a tree overnight no matter how much water you pour on it.” If I looked at the bigger picture I can see the little things should take me there eventually. He uses the analogy of a Sat Nav, the route and destination mapped out, and using our inner wisdom to get us there. He sees in me a real sense of impatience. (This is true ‘I want it all, I want it now’!) Ikeda ‘Please steadily advance on the path of faith that manifests in daily life, living in the way that works best for you’ So trust myself that I will come back stronger, better I have started re-doing Morning Pages, free hand 3 pages of A4, stream of consciousness. I really got that maybe my drive, which is a very typical creative drive, that you want to keep moving forward. What happens is that my head gets in the way. I believe that we are given these dreams of creative work from singing to painting, I believe they come from a soul place and given the talents to go with these dreams, Yes we have to train and hone but we are given these building blocks. I always have felt I have a different mission to do in this world. Ryan says lots of creatives have this darkness and agrees our gifts are divinely given. Such a sense of calling is vital. Calling is an amazing word which is far less drama than me calling it a ‘mission’, a very high impact energy word and we all do better work when we are recharged.  Ignoring the rest days in the gym just make your injury, you grow more when you rest. The sense of depression and come down, this is partly a sense of loss, part a space thats open and also a time to regroup and recharge. I feel I have been regrouping now for weeks and am still scrabbling around. Pressure and High energy get me to work. Ryan  asked me a coaching question, say the first thing that comes to my mind ‘What would it be like if you made it OK to have the downtime on the sofa’ I said ‘I’d be bored stiff’ Two days of coming off the sofa I feel so much better with a clean kitchen. The ways I chose to downtime don’t make me happy or relaxed. Ryan says my downtime process should leave me replenished, I need to find a better way to recharge. Sugar and sweets don’t help. What would it be like if I gave myself permission to have downtime? I get nervous that I can lose m[...] Podcast, Writers Marysia Trembecka Actress/Blogger/Writer & Performer of her own shows no no https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/09/09/tips-on-how-to-recover-after-a-show/ https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/09/09/tips-on-how-to-recover-after-a-show/#comments Mon, 09 Sep 2013 17:22:35 +0000 http://loveyourcreativity.com/?p=1686 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/09/09/tips-on-how-to-recover-after-a-show/feed/ 1 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/08/20/why-you-must-be-your-authentic-self-ignore-all-obstacles-distractions/ https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/08/20/why-you-must-be-your-authentic-self-ignore-all-obstacles-distractions/#comments Mon, 19 Aug 2013 23:31:53 +0000 http://loveyourcreativity.com/?p=1590 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/08/20/why-you-must-be-your-authentic-self-ignore-all-obstacles-distractions/feed/ 3 0:43:24 ‘Why you must be your authentic self & ignore all obstacles & distractions” In this third coaching session podcast Ryan James Lock continues to coach me on achieving my big goal, looking at my mindset and what is holding me back plus keeping[...] ‘Why you must be your authentic self & ignore all obstacles & distractions” In this third coaching session podcast Ryan James Lock continues to coach me on achieving my big goal, looking at my mindset and what is holding me back plus keeping me accountable. He gives me advice and focus on what I, and thus you, fellow listening creatives, can do to promote a show, exhibition or event they are working on as part of the selling of their own work. (The arrow above plays the podcast or you can catch it on my iTunes Love Your Creativity Channel) Here are some of the highlights of his advice for moving forward this week (this is not a full transcript) I must re-look at myself as a human being. It is important for me to know I am redefining how I am seeing myself. Homework – Ask myself a la ‘Byron Katy’ – ‘everything in your life is a story you are telling yourself’, ‘who would I be if I changed the story I am telling myself.’ Say to myself: This is the new life I am creating for myself, these are new things I am going to be experiencing so actually I am going to support myself by seeing myself in that way. I am in control of how I see myself, and see myself as capable, talented. Me being more than who I am can cause issues, especially in the UK where modesty is seemed a positive thing. Ryan says that being authentic and when you show up unapologetic especially as a woman, it can make people uncomfortable if they are not happy with where they are at. When you show up and you are direct, completely authentic and say things, and you are emotionally naked, it can cause issues with people. Take a look at how when you are being yourself, how the people around you are reacting. When the magic happens is when you are completely yourself, you resonate with people in a very different way. Ryan talks about owning the fact that I am being talented, maybe I do know what I am doing. It is arrogant to say that you are not talented and hide, you just hold yourself your back and it does not help you or the world. Its important to know ‘I am talented and in demand, and I deserve to be rewarded with tangible results’. The past has no power over me unless I give it power. The rest is background noise, just carry on! Practise this week on not apologising about being myself. Not only is it ok to be authentic but it is necessary to succeed. I discussed how busy I am in all other areas in my life and getting busier but I do not want to give up the dance single. Ryan says that when we make a change in our life what comes up is not inner resistance as much as adjusting to the new level I am at. So the more work I am doing towards my art, new habits need to be formed as my time is getting squeezed more. In moving ahead all my life is moving forward, things keep becoming more important and by me making things happen, life is getting busier. Ryan said ‘every new level has a different level’, often when we are on a journey you create movement and now everything is moving forward which is great but now it requires maintenance, focus and keeping going. There will be uncomfortable times at the start when we are pushing through barriers. Time is proving to be my issue. Ryan said it is ok to reschedule things and adjust things to prioritise, find a sense of balance. Look at the fact that I am on the road to getting what I want and juggling things, in wanting the ‘body’ or the ‘car’ you cant just get it without having to maintain. As I am moving all my little projects forward, everything is moving forward.   I reported that I am still trying to find my target audience people so I can ask where they find their music and download it. It isn’t proving as easy as I thought. I have had some good success in moving forward. Ryan says that one of the great things about putting yourself out there, it seems then that the biggest thing is taking the first step, but then distractions come along. Ryan says it is always good to work on the things that[...] Londontown, Marketing, Podcast Marysia Trembecka Actress/Blogger/Writer & Performer of her own shows no no https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/07/02/how-to-get-clarity-on-the-next-steps-market-edit-ship-it-or-die/ https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/07/02/how-to-get-clarity-on-the-next-steps-market-edit-ship-it-or-die/#respond Tue, 02 Jul 2013 21:58:22 +0000 http://loveyourcreativity.com/?p=1223 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/07/02/how-to-get-clarity-on-the-next-steps-market-edit-ship-it-or-die/feed/ 0 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/06/05/7-life-lessons-from-sookie-stackhouse-to-live-by-no-blood-required/ https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/06/05/7-life-lessons-from-sookie-stackhouse-to-live-by-no-blood-required/#comments Wed, 05 Jun 2013 20:02:20 +0000 http://loveyourcreativity.com/?p=972 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/06/05/7-life-lessons-from-sookie-stackhouse-to-live-by-no-blood-required/feed/ 1 0:27:29 This week “ Seven Life Lessons from Sookie Stackhouse” plus our weekly creative tracking This is the weekly Love Your Creativity Podcast newsletter to keep myself and you focused on creativity whether you are an artist, actor, musician, playwright o[...] This week “ Seven Life Lessons from Sookie Stackhouse” plus our weekly creative tracking This is the weekly Love Your Creativity Podcast newsletter to keep myself and you focused on creativity whether you are an artist, actor, musician, playwright or film director. To listen to the podcast just press the arrow above, or go to here to a link on iTunes. The  highlights of the podcast are as follows (well they are highlights in my mind ;-)!) I have just finished reading ‘Dead Ever After’ by Charlaine Harris, the last of the Sookie Stackhouse novels, on which the amazing HBO True Blood series is based. (their amazing website is here) I loved the novel ending where she knew that ..they  (no plot spoilers!!) .. would be together maybe for always but even if he left she would be alright, she would survive. Lesson One – Acknowledge you have survived Sookie  knows that she has gone through crazy, death, blood, loss and she has survived… and she will come what may In our reality people go through terrible  things and somehow survive; pain, loss of love & death hurts but you will survive.Recognise that you won through (or crawled through) and you are still here. Acknowledge the battles you have survived. Also she (and probably you) have loved and lost men, some you will love forever but you need to let go. You will survive on your own, you have to Lesson Two – Live In the Moment Sookie lives in the moment – there are so many moments where she lies in the sun, the heat, the flowers.. even despite the crazy around her. She has a place to go and relax, in this moment I am OK. I have started walking/jogging daily again as it makes me happy. Find what always cheers you and reminds you of the good things in life and go do that as often as you can Lesson Three – Family and friends, some you love, others just let them go. Sookie’s family and friends are important, she has learnt to accept their differences, know she cannot change them.  Some people you will love always, some people you need to let go off if they are not positive in your life. Lesson Four – Keep your Heart Open Despite her crazy relationships  Sookie Stackhouse keeps her heart open for new love. Maybe it is easier for a fictional character! Lesson Five – Some lovers  are very selfish Some lovers  are very selfish, not necessarily in bed.. when their ego or life is more important than you all the time it is time to leave. Season 6 Clip Preview Lesson Six- Acknowledge where what you want and what HE wants in a relationship differs You need to acknowledge what you want in life and relationships and check that that matches the men you date. If u want kids why date a vampire? If you like the sun why date a night owl? Its fine when you are not ready to settle down but dating a man clearly not ready to settle down when you want a relationship s a disaster in the long term. Its fine to have casual flings but be clear if thats is what it is and whether you actually want more. Look at your relationships and see the patterns. Make peace with your choices and stop nagging or move on Lesson Seven – Insist on having really great sex Have really great sex.  If you aren’t then  go and get it, or get some help with your current lover. Most Importantly The most admired capacity in  human is not beauty or intelligence or even the capacity to love… but the ability to get up after being beaten down and then fight forward in their own way, living the life they chose. Think of  Helen Keller, The Shawshank Redemption, Rocky, Nelson Mandela. Think also of Marlon Brando in The Waterfront ‘ i could have been a contender,” – Don’t get to the end of your life and say this.   13 minute task of the day Replace the lyrics to’ I will Survive’ with a situation or name of someone you survived. Dance and sing around the kitchen (I have done a Sookie Stackhouse version of this at 15 mins 44 seconds) AiTunes rating would rea[...] Fun, Podcast Marysia Trembecka Actress/Blogger/Writer & Performer of her own shows no no https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/03/25/fat-is-like-your-ex-you-have-to-try-really-hard-for-ages-to-get-rid-of-him/ https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/03/25/fat-is-like-your-ex-you-have-to-try-really-hard-for-ages-to-get-rid-of-him/#respond Mon, 25 Mar 2013 23:30:52 +0000 http://loveyourcreativity.com/?p=122 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/03/25/fat-is-like-your-ex-you-have-to-try-really-hard-for-ages-to-get-rid-of-him/feed/ 0