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Interviews with creatives with their advice on keeping motivated & moving forward, whether you are a actor, painter or a musician. Plus Marysia's fun weekly newsletter & 13 minute task of the day to keep you creating. Blog is at www.loveyourcreativity.com. Twitter @MarysiaT http://www.facebook.com/Loveyourcreativity. G+ & LinkedIn Marysia Trembecka creativity, marketing, author, musician, actor, novelist, positive, thinking, interviews, tips, advice Marysia Trembecka Actress/Blogger/Writer & Performer of her own shows Marysia Trembecka Actress/Blogger/Writer & Performer of her own shows marysia13@googlemail.com no no https://loveyourcreativity.com/2014/03/31/three-mindset-traps-that-entrepreneurs-creatives-fall-into-how-to-fix-them/ https://loveyourcreativity.com/2014/03/31/three-mindset-traps-that-entrepreneurs-creatives-fall-into-how-to-fix-them/#comments Mon, 31 Mar 2014 14:00:16 +0000 http://loveyourcreativity.com/?p=2829 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2014/03/31/three-mindset-traps-that-entrepreneurs-creatives-fall-into-how-to-fix-them/feed/ 3 0:29:28 The way you think about yourself affects everything from the jobs you book to how you do your marketing and the work itself. One of the benefits Ryan Lock is noticing about doing so much coaching is he is seeing this so clearly with his clients.  Th[...] The way you think about yourself affects everything from the jobs you book to how you do your marketing and the work itself. One of the benefits Ryan Lock is noticing about doing so much coaching is he is seeing this so clearly with his clients.  These mindset traps stop you having what you want as you get in your own way. This is Marysia Trembecka’s with Ryan James Lock twelfth coaching session podcast, just press the arrow above or  below are some of the highlights (this is not a full transcript) Three mindset traps Mindset Trap 1        The fear of what other people think of you if you put yourself out there or take action. Mindset Trap 2       Who The Hell Am I Syndrome? Mindset trap 3          Delusion – Thinking about it and expecting it to happen. Mindset Trap One  – The fear of what other people think of you if you put yourself out there or take action. Often the first real block of getting more clients is people worry about what others will think if they indeed step up and do a Youtube video, a blog or work towards goals. You will come up against people in whatever field you are in. As Marysia is an actress she has got used to being rejected as you don’t always fit the brief or have the right coloring for the family unit. Rejection is not always personal. You can get pencilled (so you have to block out the time in your diary) before you are penned and then still be rejected. Ryan suggests thinking of yourself as a brand, it makes it less personal. If you are worried what people think, really do acknowledge  that it is not personal, there is often a bigger picture we can’t see. You can worry about what people think, or you can take action on your goals, you can’t do both Allowing what other people think of you to stop you taking action is a real trap. Often as an entrepreneur or creative your family and friends often don’t get your dreams. Marysia listens to lots of other peoples’ podcasts in the gym for inspiration, for encouragement, she finds it’s like being in a mastermind group and helps block the other negative voices out. (There are some great podcast suggestions at the end of this post.) Ryan has recently coached someone into getting published on a front page of a website who was worried about her ‘real writer’ friends and what they would think to see her as that is not her real focus. Ryan has suggested that if her friends got weird she needs to change her friends. Having a coach or a mastermind group is important to support your dreams and remind you that you are not alone. Marysia was in a ‘mastermind’ group with other actors but they were all very different casting. She still passes on jobs for others  although if it was a casting for her type I would not. However having people in very different or similar but different  fields can be super useful to brainstorm, inspire Collaborate not competet post here Mindset Trap 2       Who The Hell Am I Syndrome? Every one suffers from lack of confidence, it can be very subtle. I won’t go that for that as I probably won’t get it I won’t go to that audition as it is out of my reach I won’t keep in touch with that contact  because they are out of my league. So it manifests itself as not believing you deserve what you want. It is very erosive, even if you want something if you have this tape playing in your head of ‘who the hell am I?’  or a la the Spice Girls ‘Who (oooh ooh) Do You Think You Are?‘ you just won’t take action for what you want. The Kardashians, reality TV stars earming $25 million for eating lunch, as they so into self promotion. Ryan had a client critiscising Madonna’s hard self promotion and Ryan said actually that is an amazing thing. So how to overcome this? Look at areas in your life where you suffering Are you not going for that promotion, talk, seminar, audition? Look at what you are not doing and own the fact that the only reason you are staying stuck is because of that belief. From there things will[...] Actors, Casting, Directors, Filmmakers, Inspiration, Marketing, Motivation, Musicians, Podcast, Writers Marysia Trembecka Actress/Blogger/Writer & Performer of her own shows no no https://loveyourcreativity.com/2014/03/04/dont-just-give-things-up-for-lent-do-more-of-what-works/ https://loveyourcreativity.com/2014/03/04/dont-just-give-things-up-for-lent-do-more-of-what-works/#comments Tue, 04 Mar 2014 23:37:15 +0000 http://loveyourcreativity.com/?p=2726 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2014/03/04/dont-just-give-things-up-for-lent-do-more-of-what-works/feed/ 1 0:34:53 This is a Marysia Trembecka with Ryan James Lock coaching session. Ryan and I chatted about being 2 months out from our New Years Goals and seeing where in some areas there has been progress and in others a dark failure. I know I am not alone, but  [...] This is a Marysia Trembecka with Ryan James Lock coaching session. Ryan and I chatted about being 2 months out from our New Years Goals and seeing where in some areas there has been progress and in others a dark failure. I know I am not alone, but  being in my gym I can see how much quieter it is now that the January Gym Resolution has faded away for lots of people. I always give something up for  Lent, as my father is a Polish Catholic, my mum an English Protestant and I am a Buddhist. Since I was a teenager all three of us  have always given up something for Lent, my sister just thinks we are mad.  Traditionally early Christians gave up things for purification and enlightenment in the 40 days before receiving baptism to convert to Christianity. I do actually find peace and indeed purification and enlightenment as I strip away each year some habits for 7 weeks, my life always moves forward and I learn something new. Last year I gave up sugar, alcohol, reading fiction books and men that were bad for me (the last one was the one I failed on, though it did provide some amusements as my ex kept yelling ‘I am not bad for you!” when I refused to see him ;-)) In giving up the alcohol, men and reading I ended up with lots of spare time which I filled with gym, reading non fiction, opening my mind and thus starting my own blog and my podcast. Lent starts Wednesday 5th March 2014 this year. This year I am thinking about cultivating new positive habits rather than just giving up things as I always start again with the old habits when Lent finishes. I want to try and implant as a creative, a proper business day routine, so sitting at my desk at 9am to do work for 4 hours as if I was  paid to do so. I know auditions etc get in the way but the idea of a 4 hour per day focused work when I am not on set seduces me into the idea that I would get letters sent out, be more on top of everything, keep up to date with everything such as chasing expenses etc. Currently by the time I sit down to do work; after a late night, breakfast and possibly the gym it is often lunchtime and then I have to dash out an hour later. Ryan says what you focus on is what improves so cultivate and build habits that take you where you want to go is a much more positive place than the negativity of giving things up to improve your life. For example in the gym don’t think that you hate your body so you have to be in the gym to lose fat but to be there to do more pressups, getting stronger etc. So  Ryan, when he gave up smoking instead of giving up, he tried to make his mission instead to build great health so juicing veg and going for longer walks. I talk of the joy of being free and louche, on set filming last week with wine glass in hand and cigarette in the other, it is fun to be free without boundaries but I do know that the good habits are the way forward. (I don’t actually smoke but my character did and having that cigaretter dangling whilst I was suitably made up as a woman in the 1950s felt very decadent!)  After many years of giving up things for Lent maybe I won’t give up anything but start something instead. Ryan says Don’t deny yourself but cultivate what you need more of to get what you want. If you want to build a great client base, rather than look at what to stop doing, maybe take a new course or look at what has got you great results. Ask what works Do more of what works that gets you the results you want. What can you add to your life and to your toolbox to cultivate what you want (For example I know if I learnt to touchtype properly it would help.) I got an iPad finally after years of wanting one but not seeing why I needed one and I was on set  filming a commercial last week. I had a scene at 10am and then not one til 6pm as there was a change of location, so I could just grab my iPad from my handbag and do lots of work, so now I can grab moments to be more productive. Ryan says that if it is not going the way you want, don‘t bea[...] Inspiration, Motivation, Podcast Marysia Trembecka Actress/Blogger/Writer & Performer of her own shows no no https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/12/18/the-space-between-where-you-want-to-go-where-you-are-now-bridge-it-through-action/ https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/12/18/the-space-between-where-you-want-to-go-where-you-are-now-bridge-it-through-action/#respond Wed, 18 Dec 2013 18:19:37 +0000 http://loveyourcreativity.com/?p=2380 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/12/18/the-space-between-where-you-want-to-go-where-you-are-now-bridge-it-through-action/feed/ 0 0:34:53 Marysia with Ryan James Lock Coaching Audio Session 0010 ‘See the space between where you want to go and where you are now.  The distance between there and here is through action. Your action that you chose to take. .’  In this 10th coaching session[...] Marysia with Ryan James Lock Coaching Audio Session 0010 ‘See the space between where you want to go and where you are now.  The distance between there and here is through action. Your action that you chose to take. .’  In this 10th coaching session podcast Ryan continues to coach me on how to market myself and my work, achieving my big goals, looking at my mindset and tackle my limiting beliefs and overcome procrastination. Ryan coached me over coffee in London a few weeks ago and by the end of the second coffee I had decided to do my first online workshop and webinar and write an ebook!  My first webinar was ‘5 ways to blast through creative blocks and get your project done” You can listen to the replay and this week’s free workshop here This podcast covered Moving forward and making big drastic steps, really stepping up. Most people know what they need to step up to the next level but there are often mental blocks to the doing. You know what to do but you are not doing it. ‘The strategies you have used to get you to where you are now, are not the same strategies that you need to take you to the next level.’ I did my normal last minute.com chaos to do my book and webinar recently.  ‘Little and often’ does not really work unless I have had to implement it eg voice and singing practice every day. My ebook and webinar I kept putting off actually doing until the deadline got too near to ignore. Four days from the deadline I had to work out the technology of a webinar or a ebook shop plus assemble the ebook and write the webinar. In my setting a date then I again HAVE to produce so I was up til 3 am most mornings and go to that uber focused place. Ryan says you must congratulate yourself in getting on and stepping up to the next stage of your life. Ryan’s procrastination list exercise Write out a list of everything you are putting off doing that you know you should be. Where are you playing too small? What steps could you take for your business or creativity? Then write against each one a step you can take. In writing my ebook  I then knew I wanted a dip in/dip out book rather than a progression from start to finish. It was only on starting to compile this I realised that was what this book needed. ‘The worse thing you can do is nothing’ I am struggling though with doing my showreel, editing it and getting it out there. As actors or creatives we are always waiting for clips or production stills to then send out. We have to collate pieces of showreel for work and yet I have been refusing to watch myself. How else can people know I can act on screen if they can’t see my work? I need showreel to move forward to do film and TV work. I really focused on getting the webinar and ebook out the door last week and not on the actual marketing of myself. Do you have a portfolio of work that you are happy to show people? I also have not been marketing my Londontown, track you hear at the beginning and end of the podcasts. The universe is reflecting back my hesitation. The universe seems to have stopped just as I have stopped myself from moving forward by refusing to do the work I need to do next; producing and putting my showreel and also getting my Londontown single out there. I am refusing to watch myself on screen, then put in an edit and let the world see it, what happens if the world thinks I am a bad actress? If the work is not out there the world can’t think I am bad or it is terrible. If I don’t do that then noone can see me and judge it. Ryan says ‘If you don’t move forward nothing can.’ Ryan says that I have raised the bar for myself, the space between where you are and where you could be, that space manifests itself as anxiety, worry, hesitation. Ryan encourages me to look at the fact I have done well. Look at where I am now and how I have moved forward. I am more self aware and developed a progressive mentality. I mention my F*** Guilt blog post Have developed my blogging and podcasts and I lo[...] Actors, Auditions, Fun, Gratitude, Marketing, Networking, Podcast Marysia Trembecka Actress/Blogger/Writer & Performer of her own shows no no https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/11/19/the-words-we-use-completely-depicts-our-mindset-and-influences-how-we-feel-cs009/ https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/11/19/the-words-we-use-completely-depicts-our-mindset-and-influences-how-we-feel-cs009/#respond Tue, 19 Nov 2013 18:15:01 +0000 http://loveyourcreativity.com/?p=2027 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/11/19/the-words-we-use-completely-depicts-our-mindset-and-influences-how-we-feel-cs009/feed/ 0 0:38:09 In this 9th coaching session podcast Ryan continues to coach me on how to market myself and my work, achieving my big goals, looking at my mindset and tackle my limiting beliefs and overcome procrastination. Here are some of the highlights of his ad[...] In this 9th coaching session podcast Ryan continues to coach me on how to market myself and my work, achieving my big goals, looking at my mindset and tackle my limiting beliefs and overcome procrastination. Here are some of the highlights of his advice for moving forward this week (this is not a full transcript) I am talking about after each process or show I crawl into a hole, collapse on the sofa and read, despite knowing that I do all or nothing in my life, I feel I put too much pressure on myself regarding expectations. After I have given a lot of energy to a project there is a lot of sugar, biscuits, cakes and chocolates, not talking to people, hiding and sitting on the couch eating.  I am doing NaNoWriMo this year (write a 50, 000 word novel in the month of November) but have also fell behind the word count during these few days of hiding. Ryan says this is common and it is important to understand that when you exert yourself in one area it is important and natural.  I have this voice in my head saying ‘Come on, get on, moving and change the world’. Ryan feels this could be a reaction, so I need to rebel against the fact that I have done so much and feels I need to give my permission to recover, however the way I am choosing to recover is not working for me. I know that eating loads of Haribo is not good, I need to find better downtime coping ways that are healthy and really work for me. I feel a bit heartbroken. I know I can get into massively catastrophic thought drama and can hurt myself in terms of self care and moving forward in my life. Ryan thinks in putting my all into things try and remember  the following advice from ‘Creative mind and success’ by Ernest Holmes, ‘A seed does not become a tree overnight no matter how much water you pour on it.” If I looked at the bigger picture I can see the little things should take me there eventually. He uses the analogy of a Sat Nav, the route and destination mapped out, and using our inner wisdom to get us there. He sees in me a real sense of impatience. (This is true ‘I want it all, I want it now’!) Ikeda ‘Please steadily advance on the path of faith that manifests in daily life, living in the way that works best for you’ So trust myself that I will come back stronger, better I have started re-doing Morning Pages, free hand 3 pages of A4, stream of consciousness. I really got that maybe my drive, which is a very typical creative drive, that you want to keep moving forward. What happens is that my head gets in the way. I believe that we are given these dreams of creative work from singing to painting, I believe they come from a soul place and given the talents to go with these dreams, Yes we have to train and hone but we are given these building blocks. I always have felt I have a different mission to do in this world. Ryan says lots of creatives have this darkness and agrees our gifts are divinely given. Such a sense of calling is vital. Calling is an amazing word which is far less drama than me calling it a ‘mission’, a very high impact energy word and we all do better work when we are recharged.  Ignoring the rest days in the gym just make your injury, you grow more when you rest. The sense of depression and come down, this is partly a sense of loss, part a space thats open and also a time to regroup and recharge. I feel I have been regrouping now for weeks and am still scrabbling around. Pressure and High energy get me to work. Ryan  asked me a coaching question, say the first thing that comes to my mind ‘What would it be like if you made it OK to have the downtime on the sofa’ I said ‘I’d be bored stiff’ Two days of coming off the sofa I feel so much better with a clean kitchen. The ways I chose to downtime don’t make me happy or relaxed. Ryan says my downtime process should leave me replenished, I need to find a better way to recharge. Sugar and sweets don’t help. What would it be like if I gave myself permission to have downtime? I get nervous that I can lose m[...] Podcast, Writers Marysia Trembecka Actress/Blogger/Writer & Performer of her own shows no no https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/11/08/you-must-be-strong-and-wrong-what-you-have-to-decide-about-working-for-free/ https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/11/08/you-must-be-strong-and-wrong-what-you-have-to-decide-about-working-for-free/#respond Fri, 08 Nov 2013 00:36:41 +0000 http://loveyourcreativity.com/?p=1983 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/11/08/you-must-be-strong-and-wrong-what-you-have-to-decide-about-working-for-free/feed/ 0 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/10/18/how-to-get-the-right-mindset-on-press-reviews/ https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/10/18/how-to-get-the-right-mindset-on-press-reviews/#comments Fri, 18 Oct 2013 11:20:04 +0000 http://loveyourcreativity.com/?p=1878 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/10/18/how-to-get-the-right-mindset-on-press-reviews/feed/ 2 0:39:20 In this Seventh coaching session podcast Ryan James Lock continues to coach me on how to market myself and my work, achieving my big goals, looking at my mindset and tackle my limiting beliefs and overcome procrastination. This week was all about pr[...] In this Seventh coaching session podcast Ryan James Lock continues to coach me on how to market myself and my work, achieving my big goals, looking at my mindset and tackle my limiting beliefs and overcome procrastination. This week was all about press reviews and how to approach reading  and recovering from them. Ryan has a PR background, having had his own business and then moving into celebrity and brand consultancy on how to get a strategy to get into the media and also Ryan himself features regularly across the world. I wanted to ask him about press and reading reviews. I am in a play at the moment  and we are getting the press reviews coming through. I have a firm no reading of reviews policy as I do not find it helps me do my job as an actor. Part of the reason I don’t read reviews is my experience in Edinburgh Festivals where you have students reviewing who have no idea of the process nor the craft. I now want constructive criticism only from my director and the writer. Bad reviews don’t help you get on stage and do a great show, yes one is always learning and there are technical issues but the press can even get this wrong, I remembered an example of a Times reviewer saying a certain pop singer was pitchy and me overhearing my very famous and brilliant singing teacher call her management and say ‘she was perfectly in tune’, I’d trust my old singing teacher more than a reviewer on this I currently have an interesting time with the reviews as I understand we need them for promotion, and I know we are getting as actors great reviews even if they don’t love the play, which people are loving or hating. All artists remember the negative reviews and dismiss the positive ones. Ryan’s response is that a review is just one person’s opinion. What is very dangerous to people who are their own brand,, when you step up on stage and you sing or act, not only are you but you are also the brand, hence you are vulnerable. He knows many people don’t read reviews and it is sensible to ignore them especially if the reviewer is a student who has no real understanding. He has done a YouTube video on dealing with bad press, if you have indeed read the reviews: 1)Be objective in what can I learn from this 2)Look at the person writing it, do they embody of what you want. He quotes  from the film ‘You Can Heal Your Life’ ‘Don’t listen to people who don’t have what you want’, if you want riches don’t listen to those who are always poor 3)To really understand that it is just an opinion. Ryan asks when I say I don’t read them is that because I worry something will hurt or that it just makes me less focused? I mention Steven Berkoff, the director/writer recently on Facebook saying how he doesn’t read reviews as he has so much bad criticism over the years but he had to post an intelligent review as they are so rare. I am very aware how a good review can really help, indeed we have had great reviews  and theatres already talking about the show transferring so I am not bitter and twisted on this. However I know great reviews can help the brand, me, sales of tickets etc. So there is an argument to get someone else to read them to see if we use them to promote. Ryan said find either a publicist, a friend, someone who is objective. We all have a sense of insecurity and it is a bad cycle to get into to be allowed to be swayed by negative comments. Wise people aren’t swayed, it is psychological well-being, you should not feel validated if people say you are great and invalidated if they don’t like you. I gave an example of hearing a tune ‘October Arrival’ by Steve Waterman, an amazing jazz trumpeter and asked if I could write some lyrics to it. I then, 6 weeks later, was asked to perform it in front of the 30 piece orchestra with my own lyrics. I was so terrified I couldn’t breathe. We started with me coming in an octave lower than I had meant to. All the way through I was shaking, I came to the middle ten (not 8, it is a jazz tune[...] Actors, Marketing, Podcast Marysia Trembecka Actress/Blogger/Writer & Performer of her own shows no no https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/10/08/look-at-the-cold-hard-facts-of-why-you-have-a-great-product-noone-is-buying-it/ https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/10/08/look-at-the-cold-hard-facts-of-why-you-have-a-great-product-noone-is-buying-it/#respond Tue, 08 Oct 2013 22:24:18 +0000 http://loveyourcreativity.com/?p=1819 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/10/08/look-at-the-cold-hard-facts-of-why-you-have-a-great-product-noone-is-buying-it/feed/ 0 0:40:06 Ryan Lock/Marysia Podcast coaching session 6 “Look at the cold hard facts of why you have a great product & noone is buying it.Plus stop shoulding all over yourself” In this Sixth coaching session podcast Ryan continues to coach me on how [...] Ryan Lock/Marysia Podcast coaching session 6 “Look at the cold hard facts of why you have a great product & noone is buying it.Plus stop shoulding all over yourself” In this Sixth coaching session podcast Ryan continues to coach me on how to market myself and my work, achieving my big goal, looking at my mindset and tackle my limiting beliefs and overcome procrastination. Here are some of the highlights of his advice for moving forward this week (this is not a full transcript) We talk about the beginning of autumn and back to school. This is a great time to set big goals as we all are ready to ‘get back to school’, we have had summer to rest and have fun. Ask what do you need to learn now to forward your creative careers? What do you need to learn to help you get there? Set up goals and how best to set up your daily work ethic. The more we can schedule self care, exercise and time to create, then we can really move things. Also focus People can be very busy doing things that do not get them jobs or income. Look at your schedule, are you actively got time to write X letters per week to get work, to meet casting directors, networking. The definition of networking ‘ who knows who you are and what you do’ It is easy to talk about how busy you are but Ryan asks what are the end results. If none of the things you are doing are not bringing in work or results. Busy-ness is not necessarily productive. You can be busy writing your book but not doing any marketing to sell the last one Freelancers should be spending 25% of their time looking for their next job, this is something I got from a FEU workshop. I need to either do a day a week working on the marketing or 25% of each day. Ryan says ‘you market now to get results in 6 months, you can’t expect instant results’ Ryan says a lot of his clients say ‘I have done this amazing thing but not many people are looking at it” . It is very important to make marketing a priority, the first strategy is make promotion a priority. In the coaching world people will read your material for 3-6 months before buying material. If you are stuck and not getting the results you want, look at black and white cold hard facts and ask ‘How much are you actually marketing?’ Working smarter not harder and study really helps there, we need often new techniques or to get better. I am realising how I need to keep moving in a mental space. I am having new projects moving in, I need to rest and yet I have stopped working on my Londontown track. I now feel I have a stone that is no longer rolling, it is easier to push one that is moving, I am not pushing that creative project and I need to minimise my sense of guilt. Ryan says in an ideal world I would be able to focus 100%, and work 24 hours a day but it is not possible and very important to replace a sense of guilt with an awareness that my song is still applicable to market and sell, nothing had disappeared. I have been clearer with saying no to some people, although I have yet to say to people ‘sorry I cant help as I need some me time!’ On self care I am back down the gym, taking my script onto the treadmill. So I use the focused time without Facebooking to learn my script whilst doing cardio. I have also stopped blogging and podcasting late at night and getting off the internet at a reasonable time. What does the word ‘should’ mean – Ryan has a module ‘Stop shoulding all over yourself’ He says the word ‘should’ makes you or another creative wrong, a quote by Louise Hay – she gets you to make a should list and replace it with either ‘I choose to’ or ‘I could chose to do it if I want to’ If you are going to do affirmations, it is really important for you to use words that your brain recognises, so not alien language or terms. Ryan says he never has heard the word ‘should; used in a positive sense. I quote Georgina Sowerby who says if you have the word ‘should’ in a sentence, it means you need to find another way of doing it. Podcast int[...] Marketing, Networking, Podcast Marysia Trembecka Actress/Blogger/Writer & Performer of her own shows no no https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/08/30/why-you-must-get-comfortable-being-uncomfortable-coaching-podcast-session-4/ https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/08/30/why-you-must-get-comfortable-being-uncomfortable-coaching-podcast-session-4/#comments Fri, 30 Aug 2013 21:17:27 +0000 http://loveyourcreativity.com/?p=1658 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/08/30/why-you-must-get-comfortable-being-uncomfortable-coaching-podcast-session-4/feed/ 1 0:36:39 Marysia/Ryan Lock coaching session 4 ‘Why you must get comfortable being uncomfortable’. In this fourth coaching session podcast Ryan James Lock continues to coach me on how to market myself and my work, achieving my big goal, looking at my mindset [...] Marysia/Ryan Lock coaching session 4 ‘Why you must get comfortable being uncomfortable’. In this fourth coaching session podcast Ryan James Lock continues to coach me on how to market myself and my work, achieving my big goal, looking at my mindset and tackle my limiting beliefs and overcome procrastination. He gives me advice and focus on what I, and thus you, the listening creatives, can do to promote a show, exhibition or event they are working on as part of the selling of their own work. Here are some of the highlights of his advice for moving forward this week (this is not a full transcript) Since I started these coaching sessions I have definitely moved my project forward. Last week’s homework was to do my YouTube video for the single and post it. I have posted it on my blog, facebook etc and now my friends and the world can see my work. Scary but I did it. He also asked me to do at least 30 minutes a day on promoting my project, however I tended to do a few hours one day and then nothing for the next few. I have realised I have 2 other dance songs that I have left on my hard drive – I am now thinking I could eventually release a 3 track dance EP. I play part of one at 8.33 minutes (Sun In The Morning) Janice Smylie – use what is already there, look what else you have. Most of what you want is already there.  Janice Smylie Website We discuss how I successfully create by booking the show, and then HAVING to create and deliver it. However this process of developing a product first and then having to market it afterwards I find very difficult, although the product is often better. Ryan says one has to be careful to  keep on the sidelines, effectively waiting til the product or art is ‘perfect’ Ryan asks about my sense of overwhelm and time issues. I am not even managing the gym routines properly, Ryan said it is natural to have fluctuations in your patterns and it is OK to have this. I talk about not knowing what steps to take next, I don’t know now what to do. I have got through the hurdles of initially contacting some people, I ask what next, do I go knock on doors?  Ryan says I need to understand that there are so many people trying to do things, release a song or a film or show. Don’t be naive and think people will get back to me tomorrow, creatives have the energy, passion to get their product out but don’t expect an immediate response. Mike Dooley said to Ryan ‘Knock on as many doors as you can. When you keep all the energy moving, things have to respond. Get so busy knocking on doors that you don’t have time to hang around and wait for a response.” Ryan agrees that there is no one single thing I can do, I just want to get the song out there and it is frustrating about not having just one door to knock on. Ryan says this sense of ‘I have this book, CD etc to get out there’ and yet you will never know what thing leads to another, the fluidity of life. Mike Dooley had been doing his emails and newsletters for months and then he heard from Rhonda Byrne… who invited him to be part of The Secret documentary, she had been reading his emails for 6 months. Ryan told me to write again a list of what is holding me back for each thing and a step I can take. Ryan’s tips of finding me some viral movement on my Youtube video Londontown video Only add the Youtube video link to my email signature but to the right people Add it to my Facebook profile – Fan page. Marketing research say people like to be told what is the next step of action, so suggest to people they look at my Youtube link. Create some video stills of my video, post it, tag friends and opinion formers (not your mum!), who are right for this project and ask them  engaging questions. Don’t just ask ‘ share please’. Put myself in the consumer shoes, what is in it for them. So tag their names, add the link to Youtube and ask a question that gets a positive answer. Ask an emotive or string image from the video and ask. Maybe ask some friends[...] Londontown, Marketing, Podcast Marysia Trembecka Actress/Blogger/Writer & Performer of her own shows no no https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/08/20/why-you-must-be-your-authentic-self-ignore-all-obstacles-distractions/ https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/08/20/why-you-must-be-your-authentic-self-ignore-all-obstacles-distractions/#comments Mon, 19 Aug 2013 23:31:53 +0000 http://loveyourcreativity.com/?p=1590 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/08/20/why-you-must-be-your-authentic-self-ignore-all-obstacles-distractions/feed/ 3 0:43:24 ‘Why you must be your authentic self & ignore all obstacles & distractions” In this third coaching session podcast Ryan James Lock continues to coach me on achieving my big goal, looking at my mindset and what is holding me back plus keeping[...] ‘Why you must be your authentic self & ignore all obstacles & distractions” In this third coaching session podcast Ryan James Lock continues to coach me on achieving my big goal, looking at my mindset and what is holding me back plus keeping me accountable. He gives me advice and focus on what I, and thus you, fellow listening creatives, can do to promote a show, exhibition or event they are working on as part of the selling of their own work. (The arrow above plays the podcast or you can catch it on my iTunes Love Your Creativity Channel) Here are some of the highlights of his advice for moving forward this week (this is not a full transcript) I must re-look at myself as a human being. It is important for me to know I am redefining how I am seeing myself. Homework – Ask myself a la ‘Byron Katy’ – ‘everything in your life is a story you are telling yourself’, ‘who would I be if I changed the story I am telling myself.’ Say to myself: This is the new life I am creating for myself, these are new things I am going to be experiencing so actually I am going to support myself by seeing myself in that way. I am in control of how I see myself, and see myself as capable, talented. Me being more than who I am can cause issues, especially in the UK where modesty is seemed a positive thing. Ryan says that being authentic and when you show up unapologetic especially as a woman, it can make people uncomfortable if they are not happy with where they are at. When you show up and you are direct, completely authentic and say things, and you are emotionally naked, it can cause issues with people. Take a look at how when you are being yourself, how the people around you are reacting. When the magic happens is when you are completely yourself, you resonate with people in a very different way. Ryan talks about owning the fact that I am being talented, maybe I do know what I am doing. It is arrogant to say that you are not talented and hide, you just hold yourself your back and it does not help you or the world. Its important to know ‘I am talented and in demand, and I deserve to be rewarded with tangible results’. The past has no power over me unless I give it power. The rest is background noise, just carry on! Practise this week on not apologising about being myself. Not only is it ok to be authentic but it is necessary to succeed. I discussed how busy I am in all other areas in my life and getting busier but I do not want to give up the dance single. Ryan says that when we make a change in our life what comes up is not inner resistance as much as adjusting to the new level I am at. So the more work I am doing towards my art, new habits need to be formed as my time is getting squeezed more. In moving ahead all my life is moving forward, things keep becoming more important and by me making things happen, life is getting busier. Ryan said ‘every new level has a different level’, often when we are on a journey you create movement and now everything is moving forward which is great but now it requires maintenance, focus and keeping going. There will be uncomfortable times at the start when we are pushing through barriers. Time is proving to be my issue. Ryan said it is ok to reschedule things and adjust things to prioritise, find a sense of balance. Look at the fact that I am on the road to getting what I want and juggling things, in wanting the ‘body’ or the ‘car’ you cant just get it without having to maintain. As I am moving all my little projects forward, everything is moving forward.   I reported that I am still trying to find my target audience people so I can ask where they find their music and download it. It isn’t proving as easy as I thought. I have had some good success in moving forward. Ryan says that one of the great things about putting yourself out there, it seems then that the biggest thing is taking the first step, but then distractions come along. Ryan says it is always good to work on the things that[...] Londontown, Marketing, Podcast Marysia Trembecka Actress/Blogger/Writer & Performer of her own shows no no https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/08/16/why-you-must-say-no-so-you-can-say-yes/ https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/08/16/why-you-must-say-no-so-you-can-say-yes/#respond Fri, 16 Aug 2013 09:13:05 +0000 http://loveyourcreativity.com/?p=1552 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/08/16/why-you-must-say-no-so-you-can-say-yes/feed/ 0 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/08/08/creating-a-next-steps-plan-whilst-talking-marysia-off-the-ledge-ryan-locks-coaching-2/ https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/08/08/creating-a-next-steps-plan-whilst-talking-marysia-off-the-ledge-ryan-locks-coaching-2/#comments Thu, 08 Aug 2013 21:20:20 +0000 http://loveyourcreativity.com/?p=1472 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/08/08/creating-a-next-steps-plan-whilst-talking-marysia-off-the-ledge-ryan-locks-coaching-2/feed/ 1 0:37:07 Post 45 of Dream, create and make money in the arts. This is the second of a series of Podcast coaching sessions with Ryan Lock ‘Be Your Own Publicist”. Ryan continues to coach me and give me further advice and tips. Ryan clearly makes the point tha[...] Post 45 of Dream, create and make money in the arts. This is the second of a series of Podcast coaching sessions with Ryan Lock ‘Be Your Own Publicist”. Ryan continues to coach me and give me further advice and tips. Ryan clearly makes the point that his coaching is not about validating my busy-ness or emotions but about moving my project forward. Ryan has agreed to coach me in this podcast format as what to do when you have a creative product and don’t know the next steps. I have a dance music song ‘Londontown’ and I am clueless on what to do next, I dont know the dance market and there seems an overwhelming amount to do. Ryan talks about my fears and is coaching me over the next few weeks on my next steps which applies to whatever art you are about to start marketing from painting, to a new play or event. Here are some of the highlights (this is not a full transcript) so listen to the show either by clicking on the right pointing arrow above or you can go to iTunes Love Your Creativity podcast channel I reported that I did actually manage to make a Teaser YouTube video for my track, make my Love your Creativity YouTube channel and upload the teaser video. It isn’t perfect but it now exists. He congratulates me on moving forward, even just a bit. I, of course, felt I had to get something done because of knowing that I had to report Ryan and the world. He says one of the best ways to get stuck is to get caught up in perfectionism, you have to get moving. We say things like ‘It’s not ready yet’ and we use that as an excuse to not move forward. Being scared of being rejected is often the reason we never let our art see the light of day. The moment you get a product out the door, you then know if people love it or not. I have set myself a very clear target ideal audience so Ryan has set me the task of finding 3 people I know who fit my ideal audience brief, then take them to coffee and tell them that they are my ideal listener, how I want to attract more people like them and ask where they go clubbing, where they find music, what websites, any advice they can give, play them the track and get their response. Even if they don’t get back to you, you have reached out and taken action and then your mind does come up with some interesting ideas. Ryan then responded to my idea of people videoing or photographing them listening to my track and using #MarysiaLondontown in return for a prize, but instead he suggested ask people to send me a pic of their own personal ‘Londontown’ and offer them a place in my video when it gets made. I then express my exasperation and frustration in not knowing what to do next, nor how to do it. Ryan responded with the next steps plan to combat me going crazy with so many ways to do this plus I don’t have a marketing plan or enough knowledge about the market. I am watching The Vamps release their first single just via Youtube at present (188,000 views in 2 days at time of writing!) but I am not sure how their model works for me as I don’t have the platform they do. He advises me also this week to think of a friend who does know more than I and take them out for coffee and ask them for advice. He suggests I think about doing a listening event. The dangers of being too exclusive. Realise that I did not make this dance single in a day so don’t expect to launch it in a day. Really get focused and calm rather than lose myself in the panic of overwhelm and panic. He says ‘You have done an amazing thing in creating so now lets take some proper time into the marketing. Take the time and energy to come up with a plan. Don’t rush this thing but take your time. He again brings me back to regaining a sense of control, establish a clear set of questions to ask. He says it is still too early to get a solid marketing plan. Start with my target market and ask where they download their music from and where they go. I have 3 target audience to and 7 people to get their advice, and give myself permis[...] Londontown, Marketing, Podcast Marysia Trembecka Actress/Blogger/Writer & Performer of her own shows no no https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/07/26/why-you-must-identify-your-ideal-customer/ https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/07/26/why-you-must-identify-your-ideal-customer/#respond Fri, 26 Jul 2013 14:31:33 +0000 http://loveyourcreativity.com/?p=1351 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/07/26/why-you-must-identify-your-ideal-customer/feed/ 0 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/07/25/how-to-start-promoting-yourself-and-stop-holding-yourself-back/ https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/07/25/how-to-start-promoting-yourself-and-stop-holding-yourself-back/#comments Thu, 25 Jul 2013 22:56:57 +0000 http://loveyourcreativity.com/?p=1344 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/07/25/how-to-start-promoting-yourself-and-stop-holding-yourself-back/feed/ 5 0:39:05 Podcast Coaching Session No 1: Marysia with Ryan James Lock, Post 41 of Dream, create and make money in the arts. Love Your Creativity aims to keep myself and you focused on creativity and this is the first of a series of coaching sessions with Ry[...] Podcast Coaching Session No 1: Marysia with Ryan James Lock, Post 41 of Dream, create and make money in the arts. Love Your Creativity aims to keep myself and you focused on creativity and this is the first of a series of coaching sessions with Ryan Lock ‘Be Your Own Publicist”. There are many calming and focusing tips in this podcast about the first steps on getting your artistic product out of the door whether it is a song, a novel or a painting. This is the first coaching session CS001. Ryan has agreed to coach me in this podcast format as what to do when you have a creative product and dont know the next steps. I have a dance music song ‘Londontown’ and I am clueless on what to do next, I dont know the dance market and there seems an overwhelming amount to do. Ryan talks about my fears and is coaching me over the next few weeks on my next steps. Here are some of the highlights (this is not a full transcript) so listen to the show either by clicking on the right pointing arrow above or you can go to iTunes Love Your Creativity podcast channel Some highlights from the coaching session He advised me to get very clear on what I want to achieve wth this project, fears aside, what are the objectives. Look at shifting my focus to everything that is in my control. Take action in spite of my fear. On me getting moving on this project despite my fear, he advised me to look at what am I avoiding doing. An Exercise he gave me was: Write down a list of what I am avoiding doing and putting off. This will clear my mind, then beside each thing, write an action step that I can do NOW. Then DO IT! The main thing he wants to see happen is movement. He wants me on this first coaching session to not do anything to add to the overwhelm but focus on what I want to achieve this week. I need the foundation in place as then the juicy parts will work better. Treat the project like going to the gym, it can hurt doing the weights but at the end you feel great. Regarding bad reviews and reactions, taking mine and Andrew Hyde’s little song into the world and I dont want the bad reactions or negativity. Ryan’s advice was that the more I target my project to whom it is tailored for the better I feel. Once I am clear who it is for, then I can start creating a plan. Also once I realise who the track is for then what people think of it does not matter so much if they are not my target audience. It is totally natural to worry but understanding yourself as a brand will calm down the anxiety. Know who my track is for and target then. If the people who I am targeting do not like it I can then target it, and those who slander it, if they are not my target audience which is fine. Miraculously he calmed my fears down and stopped me from feeling so scared and overwhelmed. He dealt with all my objections and waded through my excuses. Ryan has left me feeling very focused and positive. I feel He is doing a fast track programme of Coaching for free, full of strategies he uses with his private clients and for himself. If you, as a listener would like to ask myself and Ryan a question on creativity or marketing just email us or call my Speak Pipe. The advantage of leaving a message on my Speak Pipe (button on the right of my website saying ‘Leave a voicemail’ is that If you leave your blog details etc we can play the call live. If you like this and want an indepth overview on being your own publicist see Podcast on How To Be Your Own Publicist, Marysia & Ryan James Lock The Coaching Sessions in reverse order are as follows Podcast Coaching Session 006 Look at the Cold hard facts of why you have a great product and noone is buying it, plus stop ‘shoulding all over yourself’ Podcast Coaching Session 005 How to deal with ‘free’ work, learning to say NO & taking care of yourself” Why you must get comfortable being uncomfortable – Coaching podcast session 4 Why you must be your authentic self & ignore all [...] Marketing, Podcast Marysia Trembecka Actress/Blogger/Writer & Performer of her own shows no no https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/07/15/my-resonance-104-4-fm-show-thursday-18th-july-8pm/ https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/07/15/my-resonance-104-4-fm-show-thursday-18th-july-8pm/#comments Mon, 15 Jul 2013 09:13:22 +0000 http://loveyourcreativity.com/?p=1294 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/07/15/my-resonance-104-4-fm-show-thursday-18th-july-8pm/feed/ 1