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https://loveyourcreativity.com From the initial spark of a creative idea to getting your projects finished & out there! Wed, 04 Mar 2015 16:45:13 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.6.5 http://0.gravatar.com/avatar/e82cdf867f3dcf128ce9504af3a51b96.png?s=48 https://loveyourcreativity.com Copyright © LoveYourCreativity.com 2013 marysia13@googlemail.com (Marysia Trembecka Actress/Blogger/Writer & Performer of her own shows) marysia13@googlemail.com (Marysia Trembecka Actress/Blogger/Writer & Performer of her own shows) Creativity 1440 http://i1354.photobucket.com/albums/q698/M013/LYCPodcastpic_zps3e343740.png https://loveyourcreativity.com 144 144 Podcasts by Marysia Trembecka of LoveYourCreativity.com to make you smile & motivate you to create & put your art out there whether you are an artist or an actor. Interviews & advice with creatives from directors to authors + Marysia[...] Love Your Creativity.com. Interviews with creatives with their advice on keeping motivated & moving forward, whether you are a actor, painter or a musician. Plus Marysia's fun weekly newsletter & 13 minute task of the day to keep you creating. Blog is at www.loveyourcreativity.com. Twitter @MarysiaT http://www.facebook.com/Loveyourcreativity. G+ & LinkedIn Marysia Trembecka creativity, marketing, author, musician, actor, novelist, positive, thinking, interviews, tips, advice Marysia Trembecka Actress/Blogger/Writer & Performer of her own shows Marysia Trembecka Actress/Blogger/Writer & Performer of her own shows marysia13@googlemail.com no no https://loveyourcreativity.com/2015/03/04/artists-need-big-egos-to-make-thoughts-into-things/ https://loveyourcreativity.com/2015/03/04/artists-need-big-egos-to-make-thoughts-into-things/#respond Wed, 04 Mar 2015 16:45:13 +0000 http://loveyourcreativity.com/?p=3399 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2015/03/04/artists-need-big-egos-to-make-thoughts-into-things/feed/ 0 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2014/08/20/fear-and-change-maybe-the-most-dangerous-thing-creatively-is-to-be-comfortable/ https://loveyourcreativity.com/2014/08/20/fear-and-change-maybe-the-most-dangerous-thing-creatively-is-to-be-comfortable/#comments Wed, 20 Aug 2014 14:59:14 +0000 http://loveyourcreativity.com/?p=3228 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2014/08/20/fear-and-change-maybe-the-most-dangerous-thing-creatively-is-to-be-comfortable/feed/ 2 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2014/06/13/fear-100-days-of-being-an-actress/ https://loveyourcreativity.com/2014/06/13/fear-100-days-of-being-an-actress/#respond Fri, 13 Jun 2014 13:13:00 +0000 http://loveyourcreativity.com/?p=3146 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2014/06/13/fear-100-days-of-being-an-actress/feed/ 0 0:20:59 It is called a leap of faith for a reason: it’s not a small step or a sideways shuffle, not a little hop skip and then stop to look where you are going. It is a full bound leap over the side with arms flung to the air, not knowing whether you will e[...] It is called a leap of faith for a reason: it’s not a small step or a sideways shuffle, not a little hop skip and then stop to look where you are going. It is a full bound leap over the side with arms flung to the air, not knowing whether you will end up swimming in a river of crocodiles or resting on Harvey Weinstein’s yacht with a glass of Krug. Every creative project always has a moment when you have to leap off and trust that the end result will be better for having leapt, be it a success or  a ‘failure’ than some once half dreamed project that you never really got moving on or properly finished piece of work that never actually sees the light of day. (You can listen to the podcast version by just pressing the arrow or here are the main points below) There is also the fear of your life choices: I am happy with the choices I have made to be a professional creative. Occasionally though the instability, the insecurity of the next job, the fact as a freelance actress and performer my career and income is always uncertain, the fear may creep in. My father may never get over the fact that if I had not left my bond dealer career at 26 (I used to work in the City – the London equivalent of Wall Street) along with my Manolo’s and large pay packet I would be very wealthy now and probably have a serious London apartment paid for.  However I may have to move out of the wonderful place I live in  two months time and the mere thought of London flat hunting with it’s ever rising rents and the fact I don’t want to get a ‘proper job’ with a guaranteed income means there is more uncertainty than ever. In rational moments I know I have made the right choices, that this is where I need to be for my career and my heart space  but late at night fear creeps in! The fear gets worse also as I contemplate my next projects, especially the film I want to make based on my new solo theatre show that I am workshopping next month at the Lost Theatre in London.  It may be terrible: terribly filmed, acted, conceived, written.. I could go on with all the negatives.   However as outlined in Five Regrets of The Dying, a book from a nurse in palliative care, the number one regret of those at the end of their life is I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.   I am ‘lucky’ that  my life tends to support itself, the projects  I have done and the network of people around me always gives me fresh hope and impetus to go on. This happened again today as I have had two screenings of films I am in over the last 24 hours: Pearl which premiered in Forest Hill which was a lovely short I did last year directed and written by Nick Barrett. Trailer below. (It is to have its big screen premiere in a couple months at Crouch End Arts Cinema) Pearl trailer from CORPOREAL Films on Vimeo. Closer To Home (kickstarter details here)  should have premiered at the BFI directed by Bhavithrah Satkunarasa & produced by James Lyndon today along with the other graduation projects of UAL, however the sound was not ready so the film had to be pulled at the last minute. I had already organized to go to the BFI and was meeting a friend who wanted some creative coaching and inspiration advice beforehand so I went to watch the other films despite not getting to watch the film I was in. It was wonderful to see so many young female directors, producers and writers all graduating. After the  BFI screening I got chatting to Thomas Stoppel who was brilliant  in one of the films ‘Things I Do For You’ However not only is he an actor, he also has produced, written and directed short films and feature films.  I asked him how he got into making films given he really is such a great actor and has a great look as well, enough of a combination that many in such a position would rest on their laurels and wait for work to come to them. His website link here ‘I made my own TV Cookery series when  I was 18[...] Actors, Directors, Filmmakers, Inspiration, Motivation, Musicians, Writers Marysia Trembecka Actress/Blogger/Writer & Performer of her own shows no no https://loveyourcreativity.com/2014/05/11/100-days-of-being-an-actress-day-7-being-kind-to-yourself-keep-going/ https://loveyourcreativity.com/2014/05/11/100-days-of-being-an-actress-day-7-being-kind-to-yourself-keep-going/#respond Sun, 11 May 2014 14:14:20 +0000 http://loveyourcreativity.com/?p=3014 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2014/05/11/100-days-of-being-an-actress-day-7-being-kind-to-yourself-keep-going/feed/ 0 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2014/05/06/100-days-of-being-an-actress-day-4-my-own-pa-secretary/ https://loveyourcreativity.com/2014/05/06/100-days-of-being-an-actress-day-4-my-own-pa-secretary/#respond Tue, 06 May 2014 22:23:35 +0000 http://loveyourcreativity.com/?p=2987 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2014/05/06/100-days-of-being-an-actress-day-4-my-own-pa-secretary/feed/ 0 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2014/05/03/100-days-of-being-an-actress-day-one-bookkeeper/ https://loveyourcreativity.com/2014/05/03/100-days-of-being-an-actress-day-one-bookkeeper/#comments Sat, 03 May 2014 18:57:24 +0000 http://loveyourcreativity.com/?p=2925 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2014/05/03/100-days-of-being-an-actress-day-one-bookkeeper/feed/ 4 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2014/03/31/three-mindset-traps-that-entrepreneurs-creatives-fall-into-how-to-fix-them/ https://loveyourcreativity.com/2014/03/31/three-mindset-traps-that-entrepreneurs-creatives-fall-into-how-to-fix-them/#comments Mon, 31 Mar 2014 14:00:16 +0000 http://loveyourcreativity.com/?p=2829 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2014/03/31/three-mindset-traps-that-entrepreneurs-creatives-fall-into-how-to-fix-them/feed/ 3 0:29:28 The way you think about yourself affects everything from the jobs you book to how you do your marketing and the work itself. One of the benefits Ryan Lock is noticing about doing so much coaching is he is seeing this so clearly with his clients.  Th[...] The way you think about yourself affects everything from the jobs you book to how you do your marketing and the work itself. One of the benefits Ryan Lock is noticing about doing so much coaching is he is seeing this so clearly with his clients.  These mindset traps stop you having what you want as you get in your own way. This is Marysia Trembecka’s with Ryan James Lock twelfth coaching session podcast, just press the arrow above or  below are some of the highlights (this is not a full transcript) Three mindset traps Mindset Trap 1        The fear of what other people think of you if you put yourself out there or take action. Mindset Trap 2       Who The Hell Am I Syndrome? Mindset trap 3          Delusion – Thinking about it and expecting it to happen. Mindset Trap One  – The fear of what other people think of you if you put yourself out there or take action. Often the first real block of getting more clients is people worry about what others will think if they indeed step up and do a Youtube video, a blog or work towards goals. You will come up against people in whatever field you are in. As Marysia is an actress she has got used to being rejected as you don’t always fit the brief or have the right coloring for the family unit. Rejection is not always personal. You can get pencilled (so you have to block out the time in your diary) before you are penned and then still be rejected. Ryan suggests thinking of yourself as a brand, it makes it less personal. If you are worried what people think, really do acknowledge  that it is not personal, there is often a bigger picture we can’t see. You can worry about what people think, or you can take action on your goals, you can’t do both Allowing what other people think of you to stop you taking action is a real trap. Often as an entrepreneur or creative your family and friends often don’t get your dreams. Marysia listens to lots of other peoples’ podcasts in the gym for inspiration, for encouragement, she finds it’s like being in a mastermind group and helps block the other negative voices out. (There are some great podcast suggestions at the end of this post.) Ryan has recently coached someone into getting published on a front page of a website who was worried about her ‘real writer’ friends and what they would think to see her as that is not her real focus. Ryan has suggested that if her friends got weird she needs to change her friends. Having a coach or a mastermind group is important to support your dreams and remind you that you are not alone. Marysia was in a ‘mastermind’ group with other actors but they were all very different casting. She still passes on jobs for others  although if it was a casting for her type I would not. However having people in very different or similar but different  fields can be super useful to brainstorm, inspire Collaborate not competet post here Mindset Trap 2       Who The Hell Am I Syndrome? Every one suffers from lack of confidence, it can be very subtle. I won’t go that for that as I probably won’t get it I won’t go to that audition as it is out of my reach I won’t keep in touch with that contact  because they are out of my league. So it manifests itself as not believing you deserve what you want. It is very erosive, even if you want something if you have this tape playing in your head of ‘who the hell am I?’  or a la the Spice Girls ‘Who (oooh ooh) Do You Think You Are?‘ you just won’t take action for what you want. The Kardashians, reality TV stars earming $25 million for eating lunch, as they so into self promotion. Ryan had a client critiscising Madonna’s hard self promotion and Ryan said actually that is an amazing thing. So how to overcome this? Look at areas in your life where you suffering Are you not going for that promotion, talk, seminar, audition? Look at what you are not doing and own the fact that the only reason you are staying stuck is because of that belief. From there things will[...] Actors, Casting, Directors, Filmmakers, Inspiration, Marketing, Motivation, Musicians, Podcast, Writers Marysia Trembecka Actress/Blogger/Writer & Performer of her own shows no no https://loveyourcreativity.com/2014/03/28/make-the-art-you-want-to-make/ https://loveyourcreativity.com/2014/03/28/make-the-art-you-want-to-make/#respond Fri, 28 Mar 2014 10:30:15 +0000 http://loveyourcreativity.com/?p=2813 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2014/03/28/make-the-art-you-want-to-make/feed/ 0 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2014/02/08/chicken-documentary-that-i-narrated-has-been-nominated-for-an-award/ https://loveyourcreativity.com/2014/02/08/chicken-documentary-that-i-narrated-has-been-nominated-for-an-award/#respond Sat, 08 Feb 2014 14:00:19 +0000 http://loveyourcreativity.com/?p=2644 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2014/02/08/chicken-documentary-that-i-narrated-has-been-nominated-for-an-award/feed/ 0 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2014/01/21/why-acting-in-short-films-is-useful/ https://loveyourcreativity.com/2014/01/21/why-acting-in-short-films-is-useful/#respond Tue, 21 Jan 2014 14:18:08 +0000 http://loveyourcreativity.com/?p=2561 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2014/01/21/why-acting-in-short-films-is-useful/feed/ 0 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/12/18/the-space-between-where-you-want-to-go-where-you-are-now-bridge-it-through-action/ https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/12/18/the-space-between-where-you-want-to-go-where-you-are-now-bridge-it-through-action/#respond Wed, 18 Dec 2013 18:19:37 +0000 http://loveyourcreativity.com/?p=2380 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/12/18/the-space-between-where-you-want-to-go-where-you-are-now-bridge-it-through-action/feed/ 0 0:34:53 Marysia with Ryan James Lock Coaching Audio Session 0010 ‘See the space between where you want to go and where you are now.  The distance between there and here is through action. Your action that you chose to take. .’  In this 10th coaching session[...] Marysia with Ryan James Lock Coaching Audio Session 0010 ‘See the space between where you want to go and where you are now.  The distance between there and here is through action. Your action that you chose to take. .’  In this 10th coaching session podcast Ryan continues to coach me on how to market myself and my work, achieving my big goals, looking at my mindset and tackle my limiting beliefs and overcome procrastination. Ryan coached me over coffee in London a few weeks ago and by the end of the second coffee I had decided to do my first online workshop and webinar and write an ebook!  My first webinar was ‘5 ways to blast through creative blocks and get your project done” You can listen to the replay and this week’s free workshop here This podcast covered Moving forward and making big drastic steps, really stepping up. Most people know what they need to step up to the next level but there are often mental blocks to the doing. You know what to do but you are not doing it. ‘The strategies you have used to get you to where you are now, are not the same strategies that you need to take you to the next level.’ I did my normal last minute.com chaos to do my book and webinar recently.  ‘Little and often’ does not really work unless I have had to implement it eg voice and singing practice every day. My ebook and webinar I kept putting off actually doing until the deadline got too near to ignore. Four days from the deadline I had to work out the technology of a webinar or a ebook shop plus assemble the ebook and write the webinar. In my setting a date then I again HAVE to produce so I was up til 3 am most mornings and go to that uber focused place. Ryan says you must congratulate yourself in getting on and stepping up to the next stage of your life. Ryan’s procrastination list exercise Write out a list of everything you are putting off doing that you know you should be. Where are you playing too small? What steps could you take for your business or creativity? Then write against each one a step you can take. In writing my ebook  I then knew I wanted a dip in/dip out book rather than a progression from start to finish. It was only on starting to compile this I realised that was what this book needed. ‘The worse thing you can do is nothing’ I am struggling though with doing my showreel, editing it and getting it out there. As actors or creatives we are always waiting for clips or production stills to then send out. We have to collate pieces of showreel for work and yet I have been refusing to watch myself. How else can people know I can act on screen if they can’t see my work? I need showreel to move forward to do film and TV work. I really focused on getting the webinar and ebook out the door last week and not on the actual marketing of myself. Do you have a portfolio of work that you are happy to show people? I also have not been marketing my Londontown, track you hear at the beginning and end of the podcasts. The universe is reflecting back my hesitation. The universe seems to have stopped just as I have stopped myself from moving forward by refusing to do the work I need to do next; producing and putting my showreel and also getting my Londontown single out there. I am refusing to watch myself on screen, then put in an edit and let the world see it, what happens if the world thinks I am a bad actress? If the work is not out there the world can’t think I am bad or it is terrible. If I don’t do that then noone can see me and judge it. Ryan says ‘If you don’t move forward nothing can.’ Ryan says that I have raised the bar for myself, the space between where you are and where you could be, that space manifests itself as anxiety, worry, hesitation. Ryan encourages me to look at the fact I have done well. Look at where I am now and how I have moved forward. I am more self aware and developed a progressive mentality. I mention my F*** Guilt blog post Have developed my blogging and podcasts and I lo[...] Actors, Auditions, Fun, Gratitude, Marketing, Networking, Podcast Marysia Trembecka Actress/Blogger/Writer & Performer of her own shows no no https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/12/17/music-theatre-art-really-can-change-the-world/ https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/12/17/music-theatre-art-really-can-change-the-world/#respond Tue, 17 Dec 2013 11:13:42 +0000 http://loveyourcreativity.com/?p=2304 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/12/17/music-theatre-art-really-can-change-the-world/feed/ 0 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/12/09/if-i-have-a-god-it-is-bacchus-he-branded-me/ https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/12/09/if-i-have-a-god-it-is-bacchus-he-branded-me/#comments Mon, 09 Dec 2013 20:17:26 +0000 http://loveyourcreativity.com/?p=2189 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/12/09/if-i-have-a-god-it-is-bacchus-he-branded-me/feed/ 1 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/12/03/without-passion-without-skill-combining-the-two-is-the-essence-of-the-creative-life/ https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/12/03/without-passion-without-skill-combining-the-two-is-the-essence-of-the-creative-life/#respond Tue, 03 Dec 2013 23:31:01 +0000 http://loveyourcreativity.com/?p=900 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/12/03/without-passion-without-skill-combining-the-two-is-the-essence-of-the-creative-life/feed/ 0 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/11/19/the-words-we-use-completely-depicts-our-mindset-and-influences-how-we-feel-cs009/ https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/11/19/the-words-we-use-completely-depicts-our-mindset-and-influences-how-we-feel-cs009/#respond Tue, 19 Nov 2013 18:15:01 +0000 http://loveyourcreativity.com/?p=2027 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/11/19/the-words-we-use-completely-depicts-our-mindset-and-influences-how-we-feel-cs009/feed/ 0 0:38:09 In this 9th coaching session podcast Ryan continues to coach me on how to market myself and my work, achieving my big goals, looking at my mindset and tackle my limiting beliefs and overcome procrastination. Here are some of the highlights of his ad[...] In this 9th coaching session podcast Ryan continues to coach me on how to market myself and my work, achieving my big goals, looking at my mindset and tackle my limiting beliefs and overcome procrastination. Here are some of the highlights of his advice for moving forward this week (this is not a full transcript) I am talking about after each process or show I crawl into a hole, collapse on the sofa and read, despite knowing that I do all or nothing in my life, I feel I put too much pressure on myself regarding expectations. After I have given a lot of energy to a project there is a lot of sugar, biscuits, cakes and chocolates, not talking to people, hiding and sitting on the couch eating.  I am doing NaNoWriMo this year (write a 50, 000 word novel in the month of November) but have also fell behind the word count during these few days of hiding. Ryan says this is common and it is important to understand that when you exert yourself in one area it is important and natural.  I have this voice in my head saying ‘Come on, get on, moving and change the world’. Ryan feels this could be a reaction, so I need to rebel against the fact that I have done so much and feels I need to give my permission to recover, however the way I am choosing to recover is not working for me. I know that eating loads of Haribo is not good, I need to find better downtime coping ways that are healthy and really work for me. I feel a bit heartbroken. I know I can get into massively catastrophic thought drama and can hurt myself in terms of self care and moving forward in my life. Ryan thinks in putting my all into things try and remember  the following advice from ‘Creative mind and success’ by Ernest Holmes, ‘A seed does not become a tree overnight no matter how much water you pour on it.” If I looked at the bigger picture I can see the little things should take me there eventually. He uses the analogy of a Sat Nav, the route and destination mapped out, and using our inner wisdom to get us there. He sees in me a real sense of impatience. (This is true ‘I want it all, I want it now’!) Ikeda ‘Please steadily advance on the path of faith that manifests in daily life, living in the way that works best for you’ So trust myself that I will come back stronger, better I have started re-doing Morning Pages, free hand 3 pages of A4, stream of consciousness. I really got that maybe my drive, which is a very typical creative drive, that you want to keep moving forward. What happens is that my head gets in the way. I believe that we are given these dreams of creative work from singing to painting, I believe they come from a soul place and given the talents to go with these dreams, Yes we have to train and hone but we are given these building blocks. I always have felt I have a different mission to do in this world. Ryan says lots of creatives have this darkness and agrees our gifts are divinely given. Such a sense of calling is vital. Calling is an amazing word which is far less drama than me calling it a ‘mission’, a very high impact energy word and we all do better work when we are recharged.  Ignoring the rest days in the gym just make your injury, you grow more when you rest. The sense of depression and come down, this is partly a sense of loss, part a space thats open and also a time to regroup and recharge. I feel I have been regrouping now for weeks and am still scrabbling around. Pressure and High energy get me to work. Ryan  asked me a coaching question, say the first thing that comes to my mind ‘What would it be like if you made it OK to have the downtime on the sofa’ I said ‘I’d be bored stiff’ Two days of coming off the sofa I feel so much better with a clean kitchen. The ways I chose to downtime don’t make me happy or relaxed. Ryan says my downtime process should leave me replenished, I need to find a better way to recharge. Sugar and sweets don’t help. What would it be like if I gave myself permission to have downtime? I get nervous that I can lose m[...] Podcast, Writers Marysia Trembecka Actress/Blogger/Writer & Performer of her own shows no no https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/11/01/creating-anything-is-a-beautiful-thing-inc-writing-50000-words-in-30-days-nanowrimo/ https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/11/01/creating-anything-is-a-beautiful-thing-inc-writing-50000-words-in-30-days-nanowrimo/#respond Fri, 01 Nov 2013 20:05:18 +0000 http://loveyourcreativity.com/?p=1920 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/11/01/creating-anything-is-a-beautiful-thing-inc-writing-50000-words-in-30-days-nanowrimo/feed/ 0 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/10/18/how-to-get-the-right-mindset-on-press-reviews/ https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/10/18/how-to-get-the-right-mindset-on-press-reviews/#comments Fri, 18 Oct 2013 11:20:04 +0000 http://loveyourcreativity.com/?p=1878 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/10/18/how-to-get-the-right-mindset-on-press-reviews/feed/ 2 0:39:20 In this Seventh coaching session podcast Ryan James Lock continues to coach me on how to market myself and my work, achieving my big goals, looking at my mindset and tackle my limiting beliefs and overcome procrastination. This week was all about pr[...] In this Seventh coaching session podcast Ryan James Lock continues to coach me on how to market myself and my work, achieving my big goals, looking at my mindset and tackle my limiting beliefs and overcome procrastination. This week was all about press reviews and how to approach reading  and recovering from them. Ryan has a PR background, having had his own business and then moving into celebrity and brand consultancy on how to get a strategy to get into the media and also Ryan himself features regularly across the world. I wanted to ask him about press and reading reviews. I am in a play at the moment  and we are getting the press reviews coming through. I have a firm no reading of reviews policy as I do not find it helps me do my job as an actor. Part of the reason I don’t read reviews is my experience in Edinburgh Festivals where you have students reviewing who have no idea of the process nor the craft. I now want constructive criticism only from my director and the writer. Bad reviews don’t help you get on stage and do a great show, yes one is always learning and there are technical issues but the press can even get this wrong, I remembered an example of a Times reviewer saying a certain pop singer was pitchy and me overhearing my very famous and brilliant singing teacher call her management and say ‘she was perfectly in tune’, I’d trust my old singing teacher more than a reviewer on this I currently have an interesting time with the reviews as I understand we need them for promotion, and I know we are getting as actors great reviews even if they don’t love the play, which people are loving or hating. All artists remember the negative reviews and dismiss the positive ones. Ryan’s response is that a review is just one person’s opinion. What is very dangerous to people who are their own brand,, when you step up on stage and you sing or act, not only are you but you are also the brand, hence you are vulnerable. He knows many people don’t read reviews and it is sensible to ignore them especially if the reviewer is a student who has no real understanding. He has done a YouTube video on dealing with bad press, if you have indeed read the reviews: 1)Be objective in what can I learn from this 2)Look at the person writing it, do they embody of what you want. He quotes  from the film ‘You Can Heal Your Life’ ‘Don’t listen to people who don’t have what you want’, if you want riches don’t listen to those who are always poor 3)To really understand that it is just an opinion. Ryan asks when I say I don’t read them is that because I worry something will hurt or that it just makes me less focused? I mention Steven Berkoff, the director/writer recently on Facebook saying how he doesn’t read reviews as he has so much bad criticism over the years but he had to post an intelligent review as they are so rare. I am very aware how a good review can really help, indeed we have had great reviews  and theatres already talking about the show transferring so I am not bitter and twisted on this. However I know great reviews can help the brand, me, sales of tickets etc. So there is an argument to get someone else to read them to see if we use them to promote. Ryan said find either a publicist, a friend, someone who is objective. We all have a sense of insecurity and it is a bad cycle to get into to be allowed to be swayed by negative comments. Wise people aren’t swayed, it is psychological well-being, you should not feel validated if people say you are great and invalidated if they don’t like you. I gave an example of hearing a tune ‘October Arrival’ by Steve Waterman, an amazing jazz trumpeter and asked if I could write some lyrics to it. I then, 6 weeks later, was asked to perform it in front of the 30 piece orchestra with my own lyrics. I was so terrified I couldn’t breathe. We started with me coming in an octave lower than I had meant to. All the way through I was shaking, I came to the middle ten (not 8, it is a jazz tune[...] Actors, Marketing, Podcast Marysia Trembecka Actress/Blogger/Writer & Performer of her own shows no no https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/10/14/why-you-must-define-who-you-are-then-find-people-to-challenge-you-respectfully-dan-horrigan-playwright-director/ https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/10/14/why-you-must-define-who-you-are-then-find-people-to-challenge-you-respectfully-dan-horrigan-playwright-director/#respond Mon, 14 Oct 2013 13:00:54 +0000 http://loveyourcreativity.com/?p=1858 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/10/14/why-you-must-define-who-you-are-then-find-people-to-challenge-you-respectfully-dan-horrigan-playwright-director/feed/ 0 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/10/08/look-at-the-cold-hard-facts-of-why-you-have-a-great-product-noone-is-buying-it/ https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/10/08/look-at-the-cold-hard-facts-of-why-you-have-a-great-product-noone-is-buying-it/#respond Tue, 08 Oct 2013 22:24:18 +0000 http://loveyourcreativity.com/?p=1819 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/10/08/look-at-the-cold-hard-facts-of-why-you-have-a-great-product-noone-is-buying-it/feed/ 0 0:40:06 Ryan Lock/Marysia Podcast coaching session 6 “Look at the cold hard facts of why you have a great product & noone is buying it.Plus stop shoulding all over yourself” In this Sixth coaching session podcast Ryan continues to coach me on how [...] Ryan Lock/Marysia Podcast coaching session 6 “Look at the cold hard facts of why you have a great product & noone is buying it.Plus stop shoulding all over yourself” In this Sixth coaching session podcast Ryan continues to coach me on how to market myself and my work, achieving my big goal, looking at my mindset and tackle my limiting beliefs and overcome procrastination. Here are some of the highlights of his advice for moving forward this week (this is not a full transcript) We talk about the beginning of autumn and back to school. This is a great time to set big goals as we all are ready to ‘get back to school’, we have had summer to rest and have fun. Ask what do you need to learn now to forward your creative careers? What do you need to learn to help you get there? Set up goals and how best to set up your daily work ethic. The more we can schedule self care, exercise and time to create, then we can really move things. Also focus People can be very busy doing things that do not get them jobs or income. Look at your schedule, are you actively got time to write X letters per week to get work, to meet casting directors, networking. The definition of networking ‘ who knows who you are and what you do’ It is easy to talk about how busy you are but Ryan asks what are the end results. If none of the things you are doing are not bringing in work or results. Busy-ness is not necessarily productive. You can be busy writing your book but not doing any marketing to sell the last one Freelancers should be spending 25% of their time looking for their next job, this is something I got from a FEU workshop. I need to either do a day a week working on the marketing or 25% of each day. Ryan says ‘you market now to get results in 6 months, you can’t expect instant results’ Ryan says a lot of his clients say ‘I have done this amazing thing but not many people are looking at it” . It is very important to make marketing a priority, the first strategy is make promotion a priority. In the coaching world people will read your material for 3-6 months before buying material. If you are stuck and not getting the results you want, look at black and white cold hard facts and ask ‘How much are you actually marketing?’ Working smarter not harder and study really helps there, we need often new techniques or to get better. I am realising how I need to keep moving in a mental space. I am having new projects moving in, I need to rest and yet I have stopped working on my Londontown track. I now feel I have a stone that is no longer rolling, it is easier to push one that is moving, I am not pushing that creative project and I need to minimise my sense of guilt. Ryan says in an ideal world I would be able to focus 100%, and work 24 hours a day but it is not possible and very important to replace a sense of guilt with an awareness that my song is still applicable to market and sell, nothing had disappeared. I have been clearer with saying no to some people, although I have yet to say to people ‘sorry I cant help as I need some me time!’ On self care I am back down the gym, taking my script onto the treadmill. So I use the focused time without Facebooking to learn my script whilst doing cardio. I have also stopped blogging and podcasting late at night and getting off the internet at a reasonable time. What does the word ‘should’ mean – Ryan has a module ‘Stop shoulding all over yourself’ He says the word ‘should’ makes you or another creative wrong, a quote by Louise Hay – she gets you to make a should list and replace it with either ‘I choose to’ or ‘I could chose to do it if I want to’ If you are going to do affirmations, it is really important for you to use words that your brain recognises, so not alien language or terms. Ryan says he never has heard the word ‘should; used in a positive sense. I quote Georgina Sowerby who says if you have the word ‘should’ in a sentence, it means you need to find another way of doing it. Podcast int[...] Marketing, Networking, Podcast Marysia Trembecka Actress/Blogger/Writer & Performer of her own shows no no https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/08/30/why-you-must-get-comfortable-being-uncomfortable-coaching-podcast-session-4/ https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/08/30/why-you-must-get-comfortable-being-uncomfortable-coaching-podcast-session-4/#comments Fri, 30 Aug 2013 21:17:27 +0000 http://loveyourcreativity.com/?p=1658 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/08/30/why-you-must-get-comfortable-being-uncomfortable-coaching-podcast-session-4/feed/ 1 0:36:39 Marysia/Ryan Lock coaching session 4 ‘Why you must get comfortable being uncomfortable’. In this fourth coaching session podcast Ryan James Lock continues to coach me on how to market myself and my work, achieving my big goal, looking at my mindset [...] Marysia/Ryan Lock coaching session 4 ‘Why you must get comfortable being uncomfortable’. In this fourth coaching session podcast Ryan James Lock continues to coach me on how to market myself and my work, achieving my big goal, looking at my mindset and tackle my limiting beliefs and overcome procrastination. He gives me advice and focus on what I, and thus you, the listening creatives, can do to promote a show, exhibition or event they are working on as part of the selling of their own work. Here are some of the highlights of his advice for moving forward this week (this is not a full transcript) Since I started these coaching sessions I have definitely moved my project forward. Last week’s homework was to do my YouTube video for the single and post it. I have posted it on my blog, facebook etc and now my friends and the world can see my work. Scary but I did it. He also asked me to do at least 30 minutes a day on promoting my project, however I tended to do a few hours one day and then nothing for the next few. I have realised I have 2 other dance songs that I have left on my hard drive – I am now thinking I could eventually release a 3 track dance EP. I play part of one at 8.33 minutes (Sun In The Morning) Janice Smylie – use what is already there, look what else you have. Most of what you want is already there.  Janice Smylie Website We discuss how I successfully create by booking the show, and then HAVING to create and deliver it. However this process of developing a product first and then having to market it afterwards I find very difficult, although the product is often better. Ryan says one has to be careful to  keep on the sidelines, effectively waiting til the product or art is ‘perfect’ Ryan asks about my sense of overwhelm and time issues. I am not even managing the gym routines properly, Ryan said it is natural to have fluctuations in your patterns and it is OK to have this. I talk about not knowing what steps to take next, I don’t know now what to do. I have got through the hurdles of initially contacting some people, I ask what next, do I go knock on doors?  Ryan says I need to understand that there are so many people trying to do things, release a song or a film or show. Don’t be naive and think people will get back to me tomorrow, creatives have the energy, passion to get their product out but don’t expect an immediate response. Mike Dooley said to Ryan ‘Knock on as many doors as you can. When you keep all the energy moving, things have to respond. Get so busy knocking on doors that you don’t have time to hang around and wait for a response.” Ryan agrees that there is no one single thing I can do, I just want to get the song out there and it is frustrating about not having just one door to knock on. Ryan says this sense of ‘I have this book, CD etc to get out there’ and yet you will never know what thing leads to another, the fluidity of life. Mike Dooley had been doing his emails and newsletters for months and then he heard from Rhonda Byrne… who invited him to be part of The Secret documentary, she had been reading his emails for 6 months. Ryan told me to write again a list of what is holding me back for each thing and a step I can take. Ryan’s tips of finding me some viral movement on my Youtube video Londontown video Only add the Youtube video link to my email signature but to the right people Add it to my Facebook profile – Fan page. Marketing research say people like to be told what is the next step of action, so suggest to people they look at my Youtube link. Create some video stills of my video, post it, tag friends and opinion formers (not your mum!), who are right for this project and ask them  engaging questions. Don’t just ask ‘ share please’. Put myself in the consumer shoes, what is in it for them. So tag their names, add the link to Youtube and ask a question that gets a positive answer. Ask an emotive or string image from the video and ask. Maybe ask some friends[...] Londontown, Marketing, Podcast Marysia Trembecka Actress/Blogger/Writer & Performer of her own shows no no https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/08/20/why-you-must-be-your-authentic-self-ignore-all-obstacles-distractions/ https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/08/20/why-you-must-be-your-authentic-self-ignore-all-obstacles-distractions/#comments Mon, 19 Aug 2013 23:31:53 +0000 http://loveyourcreativity.com/?p=1590 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/08/20/why-you-must-be-your-authentic-self-ignore-all-obstacles-distractions/feed/ 3 0:43:24 ‘Why you must be your authentic self & ignore all obstacles & distractions” In this third coaching session podcast Ryan James Lock continues to coach me on achieving my big goal, looking at my mindset and what is holding me back plus keeping[...] ‘Why you must be your authentic self & ignore all obstacles & distractions” In this third coaching session podcast Ryan James Lock continues to coach me on achieving my big goal, looking at my mindset and what is holding me back plus keeping me accountable. He gives me advice and focus on what I, and thus you, fellow listening creatives, can do to promote a show, exhibition or event they are working on as part of the selling of their own work. (The arrow above plays the podcast or you can catch it on my iTunes Love Your Creativity Channel) Here are some of the highlights of his advice for moving forward this week (this is not a full transcript) I must re-look at myself as a human being. It is important for me to know I am redefining how I am seeing myself. Homework – Ask myself a la ‘Byron Katy’ – ‘everything in your life is a story you are telling yourself’, ‘who would I be if I changed the story I am telling myself.’ Say to myself: This is the new life I am creating for myself, these are new things I am going to be experiencing so actually I am going to support myself by seeing myself in that way. I am in control of how I see myself, and see myself as capable, talented. Me being more than who I am can cause issues, especially in the UK where modesty is seemed a positive thing. Ryan says that being authentic and when you show up unapologetic especially as a woman, it can make people uncomfortable if they are not happy with where they are at. When you show up and you are direct, completely authentic and say things, and you are emotionally naked, it can cause issues with people. Take a look at how when you are being yourself, how the people around you are reacting. When the magic happens is when you are completely yourself, you resonate with people in a very different way. Ryan talks about owning the fact that I am being talented, maybe I do know what I am doing. It is arrogant to say that you are not talented and hide, you just hold yourself your back and it does not help you or the world. Its important to know ‘I am talented and in demand, and I deserve to be rewarded with tangible results’. The past has no power over me unless I give it power. The rest is background noise, just carry on! Practise this week on not apologising about being myself. Not only is it ok to be authentic but it is necessary to succeed. I discussed how busy I am in all other areas in my life and getting busier but I do not want to give up the dance single. Ryan says that when we make a change in our life what comes up is not inner resistance as much as adjusting to the new level I am at. So the more work I am doing towards my art, new habits need to be formed as my time is getting squeezed more. In moving ahead all my life is moving forward, things keep becoming more important and by me making things happen, life is getting busier. Ryan said ‘every new level has a different level’, often when we are on a journey you create movement and now everything is moving forward which is great but now it requires maintenance, focus and keeping going. There will be uncomfortable times at the start when we are pushing through barriers. Time is proving to be my issue. Ryan said it is ok to reschedule things and adjust things to prioritise, find a sense of balance. Look at the fact that I am on the road to getting what I want and juggling things, in wanting the ‘body’ or the ‘car’ you cant just get it without having to maintain. As I am moving all my little projects forward, everything is moving forward.   I reported that I am still trying to find my target audience people so I can ask where they find their music and download it. It isn’t proving as easy as I thought. I have had some good success in moving forward. Ryan says that one of the great things about putting yourself out there, it seems then that the biggest thing is taking the first step, but then distractions come along. Ryan says it is always good to work on the things that[...] Londontown, Marketing, Podcast Marysia Trembecka Actress/Blogger/Writer & Performer of her own shows no no https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/06/05/7-life-lessons-from-sookie-stackhouse-to-live-by-no-blood-required/ https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/06/05/7-life-lessons-from-sookie-stackhouse-to-live-by-no-blood-required/#comments Wed, 05 Jun 2013 20:02:20 +0000 http://loveyourcreativity.com/?p=972 https://loveyourcreativity.com/2013/06/05/7-life-lessons-from-sookie-stackhouse-to-live-by-no-blood-required/feed/ 1 0:27:29 This week “ Seven Life Lessons from Sookie Stackhouse” plus our weekly creative tracking This is the weekly Love Your Creativity Podcast newsletter to keep myself and you focused on creativity whether you are an artist, actor, musician, playwright o[...] This week “ Seven Life Lessons from Sookie Stackhouse” plus our weekly creative tracking This is the weekly Love Your Creativity Podcast newsletter to keep myself and you focused on creativity whether you are an artist, actor, musician, playwright or film director. To listen to the podcast just press the arrow above, or go to here to a link on iTunes. The  highlights of the podcast are as follows (well they are highlights in my mind ;-)!) I have just finished reading ‘Dead Ever After’ by Charlaine Harris, the last of the Sookie Stackhouse novels, on which the amazing HBO True Blood series is based. (their amazing website is here) I loved the novel ending where she knew that ..they  (no plot spoilers!!) .. would be together maybe for always but even if he left she would be alright, she would survive. Lesson One – Acknowledge you have survived Sookie  knows that she has gone through crazy, death, blood, loss and she has survived… and she will come what may In our reality people go through terrible  things and somehow survive; pain, loss of love & death hurts but you will survive.Recognise that you won through (or crawled through) and you are still here. Acknowledge the battles you have survived. Also she (and probably you) have loved and lost men, some you will love forever but you need to let go. You will survive on your own, you have to Lesson Two – Live In the Moment Sookie lives in the moment – there are so many moments where she lies in the sun, the heat, the flowers.. even despite the crazy around her. She has a place to go and relax, in this moment I am OK. I have started walking/jogging daily again as it makes me happy. Find what always cheers you and reminds you of the good things in life and go do that as often as you can Lesson Three – Family and friends, some you love, others just let them go. Sookie’s family and friends are important, she has learnt to accept their differences, know she cannot change them.  Some people you will love always, some people you need to let go off if they are not positive in your life. Lesson Four – Keep your Heart Open Despite her crazy relationships  Sookie Stackhouse keeps her heart open for new love. Maybe it is easier for a fictional character! Lesson Five – Some lovers  are very selfish Some lovers  are very selfish, not necessarily in bed.. when their ego or life is more important than you all the time it is time to leave. Season 6 Clip Preview Lesson Six- Acknowledge where what you want and what HE wants in a relationship differs You need to acknowledge what you want in life and relationships and check that that matches the men you date. If u want kids why date a vampire? If you like the sun why date a night owl? Its fine when you are not ready to settle down but dating a man clearly not ready to settle down when you want a relationship s a disaster in the long term. Its fine to have casual flings but be clear if thats is what it is and whether you actually want more. Look at your relationships and see the patterns. Make peace with your choices and stop nagging or move on Lesson Seven – Insist on having really great sex Have really great sex.  If you aren’t then  go and get it, or get some help with your current lover. Most Importantly The most admired capacity in  human is not beauty or intelligence or even the capacity to love… but the ability to get up after being beaten down and then fight forward in their own way, living the life they chose. Think of  Helen Keller, The Shawshank Redemption, Rocky, Nelson Mandela. Think also of Marlon Brando in The Waterfront ‘ i could have been a contender,” – Don’t get to the end of your life and say this.   13 minute task of the day Replace the lyrics to’ I will Survive’ with a situation or name of someone you survived. 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