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This is a Marysia Trembecka with Ryan James Lock coaching session. Ryan and I chatted about being 2 months out from our New Years Goals and seeing where in some areas there has been progress and in others a dark failure. I know I am not alone, but\u00a0 being in my gym I can see how much quieter it is now that the January Gym Resolution has faded away for lots of people.<\/p>\n

I always give something up for\u00a0 Lent, as my father is a Polish Catholic, my mum an English Protestant and I am a Buddhist. Since I was a teenager all three of us\u00a0 have always given up something for Lent, my sister just thinks we are mad.\u00a0 Traditionally early Christians gave up things for purification and enlightenment in the 40 days before receiving baptism to convert to Christianity. I do actually find peace and indeed purification and enlightenment as I strip away each year some habits for 7 weeks, my life always moves forward and I learn something new.
\nLast year I gave up sugar, alcohol, reading fiction books and men that were bad for me (the last one was the one I failed on, though it did provide some amusements as my ex kept yelling \u2018I am not bad for you!\u201d when I refused to see him ;-)) In giving up the alcohol, men and reading I ended up with lots of spare time which I filled with gym, reading non fiction, opening my mind and thus starting my own blog and my podcast. Lent starts Wednesday 5th March 2014 this year.<\/p>\n

This year I am thinking about cultivating new positive habits rather than just giving up things as I always start again with the old habits when Lent finishes. I want to try and implant as a creative, a proper business day routine, so sitting at my desk at 9am to do work for 4 hours as if I was\u00a0 paid to do so. I know auditions etc get in the way but the idea of a 4 hour per day focused work when I am not on set seduces me into the idea that I would get letters sent out, be more on top of everything, keep up to date with everything such as chasing expenses etc. Currently by the time I sit down to do work; after a late night, breakfast and possibly the gym it is often lunchtime and then I have to dash out an hour later.<\/p>\n

Ryan says what you focus on is what improves so cultivate and build habits that take you where you want to go is a much more positive place than the negativity of giving things up to improve your life. For example in the gym don\u2019t think that you hate your body so you have to be in the gym to lose fat but to be there to do more pressups, getting stronger etc. So\u00a0 Ryan, when he gave up smoking instead of giving up, he tried to make his mission instead to build great health so juicing veg and going for longer walks.<\/p>\n

I talk of the joy of being free and louche, on set filming last week with wine glass in hand and cigarette in the other, it is fun to be free without boundaries but I do know that the good habits are the way forward. (I don’t actually smoke but my character did and having that cigaretter dangling whilst I was suitably made up as a woman in the 1950s felt very decadent!)\u00a0 After many years of giving up things for Lent maybe I won\u2019t give up anything but start something instead.<\/p>\n

\"Closer<\/a><\/p>\n

Ryan says<\/p>\n