F*** Guilt: Why it is bad for us

Happy Monday everyone 😉 I only really have one rule in  my life which is “FUCK GUILT”. I don’t swear very often, and I don’t like hearing others swear much either. However this is my exception as I feel so strongly about this.  I used to have remind myself of it a lot but now it comes more naturally and I remind others. I yell it at myself when I feel guilt creeping in and I make my friends yell it with me when they are feeling bad.

I am not saying that I do not mess up but I chose to not feel guilty and instead use that energy to do  something more productive and constructive about my behaviour to ensure I do not behave that way again whether it is towards myself and others. Niki Flacks the acting coach actually gets the room to yell FUCK GUILT. I suggest you try it today, in the office or in the pub, You will feel better 😉

The great news is that there is scientific evidence that guilt actually makes you overindulge more.

Some research Kelly McGonigal, PhD, Author and Stanford University psychologist mentions in her new book is that

‘The worse people feel about overindulging such as drink, gambling, eating too many cookies then the more likely they are to continue to overindulge. The worse procrastinators feel about putting things off, the longer they procrastinate the next time they get the opportunity.’ So talk to yourself, be aware you have a tendency to feel hard on yourself, and the emotions you feel coming off that overindulgence and remind yourself that failing is part of any process of reaching a goal and then remind yourself to get back onto achieving your goal.

I mention this as we head towards Christmas and the overindulgence beckons with many of us also saying ‘In the New Year I will eat less, train more, write that novel, put on that play’…

I am doing a free webinar this Thursday at 6pm GMT on ‘3 ways to survive the Xmas period in style as a creative” and I will be talking more about Guilt and how to use the energy better so watch this space for details!

Plus after last Thursday’s webinar on Five Ways to get your project done as a creative (Listen here to the replay) I have complied a little free eBook on getting your project done as a creative. It is basically a free extract from my eBook ‘Get Your Art In Gear; 60 Ways to fulfill your creative potential”.

If you want a copy of the extract just fill in the contact form or email me at marysia@loveyourcreativity.com  and tell me if you want it in .pdf or .epub format.

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 The extract is free but you can also chose to gift yourself or others with my extensive eBook ‘Get Your Art In Gear; 60 Ways to fulfill your creative potential”.

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It is full of tips, hints, exercises and essays all calculated to stop you procrastinating and get moving and finish your project. Whether you are an artist, an actor, a writer or a musician the whole ebook is about getting the work done, and motivating yourself from the initial spark of an idea to getting your projects finished & out there!