Why you must be your authentic self & ignore all obstacles & distractions' Podcast Coaching Session 3 with Ryan James Lock [ 43:24 ] Play Now | Play in Popup | Download‘Why you must be your authentic self & ignore all obstacles & distractions”
In this third coaching session podcast Ryan James Lock continues to coach me on achieving my big goal, looking at my mindset and what is holding me back plus keeping me accountable. He gives me advice and focus on what I, and thus you, fellow listening creatives, can do to promote a show, exhibition or event they are working on as part of the selling of their own work.
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Here are some of the highlights of his advice for moving forward this week (this is not a full transcript)
I must re-look at myself as a human being. It is important for me to know I am redefining how I am seeing myself.
Homework – Ask myself a la ‘Byron Katy’ – ‘everything in your life is a story you are telling yourself’, ‘who would I be if I changed the story I am telling myself.’
Say to myself: This is the new life I am creating for myself, these are new things I am going to be experiencing so actually I am going to support myself by seeing myself in that way. I am in control of how I see myself, and see myself as capable, talented.
Me being more than who I am can cause issues, especially in the UK where modesty is seemed a positive thing. Ryan says that being authentic and when you show up unapologetic especially as a woman, it can make people uncomfortable if they are not happy with where they are at.
When you show up and you are direct, completely authentic and say things, and you are emotionally naked, it can cause issues with people. Take a look at how when you are being yourself, how the people around you are reacting.
When the magic happens is when you are completely yourself, you resonate with people in a very different way. Ryan talks about owning the fact that I am being talented, maybe I do know what I am doing. It is arrogant to say that you are not talented and hide, you just hold yourself your back and it does not help you or the world. Its important to know ‘I am talented and in demand, and I deserve to be rewarded with tangible results’.
The past has no power over me unless I give it power. The rest is background noise, just carry on!
Practise this week on not apologising about being myself.
Not only is it ok to be authentic but it is necessary to succeed.
I discussed how busy I am in all other areas in my life and getting busier but I do not want to give up the dance single.
Ryan says that when we make a change in our life what comes up is not inner resistance as much as adjusting to the new level I am at. So the more work I am doing towards my art, new habits need to be formed as my time is getting squeezed more.
In moving ahead all my life is moving forward, things keep becoming more important and by me making things happen, life is getting busier.
Ryan said ‘every new level has a different level’, often when we are on a journey you create movement and now everything is moving forward which is great but now it requires maintenance, focus and keeping going. There will be uncomfortable times at the start when we are pushing through barriers.
Time is proving to be my issue. Ryan said it is ok to reschedule things and adjust things to prioritise, find a sense of balance. Look at the fact that I am on the road to getting what I want and juggling things, in wanting the ‘body’ or the ‘car’ you cant just get it without having to maintain.
As I am moving all my little projects forward, everything is moving forward.
I reported that I am still trying to find my target audience people so I can ask where they find their music and download it. It isn’t proving as easy as I thought. I have had some good success in moving forward.
Ryan says that one of the great things about putting yourself out there, it seems then that the biggest thing is taking the first step, but then distractions come along. Ryan says it is always good to work on the things that you can control, not the shiny nice distractions like possible deals or other ventures. I talk about my experiences of failed record deals, of having got a project so far and then passing it into other hands.
Ryan talks about reframing my old mistakes so I can take the lessons. He does not want me to drop the ball here by getting over excited by other people’s reactions and ideas. Enjoy the compliments but don’t stop taking action.
Mike Dooley’s concept ‘ Think about being in the cinema, darken everything around the screen.’
Ryan picked up ‘I know I need to do but’ he told me to write them down and take a look at them, they will be irrelevant or these task are pushing me through an uncomfortable area of resistance.
I realise that me making the video means my track will be out there and ready to be heard which is scary. Ryan says we are all on our own journey, with special circumstances. I need to go and do the things I know I should do. I must push ahead constantly. Everything has changed.
Homework for me! Feel free to ‘steal it’ and translate to your own use.
I need to schedule in ‘Londontown time’ minimum 30 minutes everyday and ideally an hour every day. You could schedule in time on a particular project of your own.
I am going to make the 4 minute YouTube video so as to start getting the track out there. So pick the most important task you need to do to get the next ball rolling
Keep the ball moving by continuing to make connections with people about the project, in my case asking their thoughts on it
Ask myself ‘who would I be if I changed the story I am telling myself.’
Finally say to myself: This is the new life I am creating for myself, these are new things I am going to be experiencing so actually I am going to support myself by seeing myself in that way. I am in control of how I see myself, and see myself as capable, talented.
If you, as a listener would like to ask myself and Ryan a question on creativity or marketing just email us or call my Speak Pipe. The advantage of leaving a message on my Speak Pipe (button on the right of my website saying ‘Leave a voicemail’ is that If you leave your blog details etc we can play the call live.
If you like this and want an indepth overview on being your own publicist see Podcast on How To Be Your Own Publicist, Marysia & Ryan James Lock
The Coaching Sessions in reverse order are as follows
Why you must get comfortable being uncomfortable – Coaching podcast session 4
Podcast Coaching Session 001 How to start promoting yourself and stop holding yourself back
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